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writes:Hi there, my boyfriend and i have been together for a year now, and we have known each other for over 11 years, we were best friends growing up, and everything was great in the begining but now, it just seems like i get pushed aside for his video games, and porn etc.i dont like this feeling because all my exes have cheated on me with my friends behind my back..... he also goes on facebook and tells girls that if he had the chance he would **** them like crazy,.... i was just wondering if this is normal, or should i be worried and talk to him about it? thank you
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reader, person12345  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Even leaving aside everything else, going online and saying he'd **** other women like crazy if he had the chance shows a complete lack of respect for you or your relationship and sounds like he'd cheat if he got the chance. This guy obviously does not appreciate you, you should move on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 Doesn't sound right. He shows a complete lack of respect for you if he says things like that to other women!
I think he sounds like he could be just like your exes and other friends. You said your exes cheated on you with your friends! So, you had a few lousy friends!
Talk to him. If he can't change his ways then maybe it's better you let him go so you can find someone more deserving of you, someone who will respect you and not take you for granted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): Normal is not relevant but what is important is whether or not this is acceptable to you. It clearly isn't. It wouldn't be to me either. I agree with the other post that there seems to be a theme in the guys you are getting together with. It's time to raise the bar and aim a bit higher otherwise you will continue to attract and be with guys who cheat on you either physically, or in the case of your current boyfriend, mentally. I would encourage you to step back and build your self esteem up a bit - find out what makes you tick by developing a strong sense of self. That way, you will have a clear inner guide to what is good and not good in a relationship before you get dragged too deeply into it. You will be clearer about what you want. By continuing with this immature guy you are diluting yourself. Good luck.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 July 2011):
To be honest, I think you should look at the type's of guys you're attracted to. You seem to be picking the same type over and over again.
A guy who goes on facebook and says if he had the chance he'd '**** them like crazy' is about as worthless as the other guys you had before. That coupled with the lack of attention and is apparent over-use of porn and video games shows that he's not really interested, or has that much respect for you at all.
I think perhaps you need to be alone for a while, and I think you need to carefully look at what attracts to to these types of men, because you're setting yourself up with guys who are either cheats, or at the very least have so little respect for you that they'd actively talk about what they'd do to other women over the internet. Just seems to me like you're wasting a lot of time with the same type of guy.
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