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writes:Hi guys..I have been "casually sleeping" with one of my ex boyfriends for a little over a month now. We had been broken up for almost 4 years, were both 20 now. (i'm almost 21) I state it like that because we do more than just casual sex. He usually "hangs" out with me once or twice a week. sometimes he will come over and watch tv and cuddle with me which leads to sex. and last time we hung out we went to the beach and we talked about all of the shit thats basically happened since we broke up. we've both established that we miss what we had and that we'd very much like to be together. When driving, we always has his hand on my lap, or holding my hand, and when were walking, he always want's to hold my hand. The problem is he says he "can't rush a relationship" right now. He say's maybe in a month. Last week he told his friend ( previous mututal friend) that he is "seeing" me again. In between seeing eachother, we never talk on the phone, and we hardly text ( maybe average 4 texts a day) and it's like really awkward texts. 80% of the time he wont reply, BUT he texts me EVERY day. Without a doubt. if i ignore him all day he WILL text me. So, i'm slightly confused. his ACTIONS when were together say he wants me back, but his words when were not together say he couldn't care less. What do i do about this guy? Is he just using me? I'mn hitting a brick wall here, don't know how to re act. I do still like this guy very much. Possibly even Still love him ( we dated for a year, and i took his V card), it's too early to tell though. What do I do? i can't stop analyzing this behaviour! help please D:
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reader, Odds  +, writes (20 July 2011):
 CaringGuy basically covered it. He only wants easy sex. I would only add that every hour you spend with your ex is an hour you're not spending finding a boyfriend who will be more forthcoming. On the other hand, if you're enjoying the uncertainty and drama of it, that's your prerogative.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2011): hey there don't beat yourself up.like you said his actions says he wants you,and like the saying go's action speaks louder than words.if this guy did not want you back he would not be with you wanting to hold your hand in public and cuddling up with you on the couch.he is possibly working through some issues of his own.Try and withhold your sexual desires it could be that is all he may be after,if that is not all he wants he will stick to you whether you get sexual or not cause all that wont matter to him.at least you will have peace of mind.good luck
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (20 July 2011):
Sorry - his actions don't say he wants you back. At all. In fact, his actions merely says that he wants you hanging around for sex.
If he wanted to be with you, especially after 4 years, he'd be far clearer and he wouldn't say "I can't be in a relationship now, maybe in a month'.
I would say stop the sex and talk to him about what he really wants, because it seems to me that he just uses you conveniently without any sign whatsoever of commitment.
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