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writes:My bf and I broke up and he went on an overseas holiday with some of his friends. When he got back he told me he regretted the break up and realised what he wanted in life- me.He said he missed me so much and didnt want anyone else but me and bla bla...he said no one can replace me. So we got back together.Anyway, he posted some photos of his holiday on Facebook and there were alot of other girls in these photos. There was one photo of a girl in particular doing like a sexy pose and one of my bf's friends made a comment saying "shes hot, we hooked up that night". My bf then replied to the comment saying "so what you hooked up? who was she kissing and holding hands in public with the next day huh? ;)"From that, it implies that my bf made out with this "hot girl" the next day.Now I understand we were broken up and everything so he can do whatever he wnats. I am not mad that he made out with another girl. What I am mad about is that he is bragging about it on facebook, while me and him are back together! He got back from his holiday a month ago and he was bragging about this today.Does anyone else think it is inappropiate for my bf to brag about previous girls hes hooked up with etc?Espeically in such a public place on facebook. It really hurts my feelings.How do i talk to him about this? Am i overeacting? Should i accept this behaviour?
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reader, xynebrutalis  +, writes (23 November 2009):
 This guy cares more about his ego then you, I've seen this a hundred times from the preppy jock guys when I was in high school, always walking down the hall with the cheerleaders and making fun on the ones who the cheerleaders wouldn't be seen with. I would not be in a relationship with this person, for a 25 year old he will be set in his ways, and even if he truly is sorry for a while, its apart of who he is, he will do it again eventually. To save yourself from future agony I would get away from this guy and move on to bigger and better things.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWow thankyou for your replies. I feel better knowing I'm not being over sensitive and overeacting because my bf always tells me I am when he hurts my feelings. Rather then accept that his behaviour upsets me someitmes and apologise, he just says I need to stop overeacting.
Aunty BimBim - Yes sorry I forgot to list my age. I am 20 and my bf is 25...so you would expect a bit more maturity by that age dont you think?
xynebrutalis- Yeah I dont know if he intentionally did it to hurt me or not. What I do know is the day he wrote that on facebook, earlier that day I was out with him and a guy I work with said hello to me in the street and kept on walking and my bf put his arm around me and said to me 'what does he want? your my girl, not his'. Its ok for him to talk to and flirt with other girls etc...but when it comes to me a guy I work with cant even innocently say hello.
Jayney Y- Yeah I do feel really disrespected by what he did and what hurst most is that I know he enjoys the attention and bragging about other girls because it boosts his ego. He cares more about boosting his own ego rather than my feelings.
So I guess my question is, how do I bring the topic up in conversation? I dont want him to think I am tracing his every move on facebook or anything because im not.
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reader, Jayney Y +, writes (22 November 2009):
 No, you're not over-reacting, it's downright juvenile behaviour, and also dismissive and disrespectful towards you. Aside from that, what have they got to brag about really? Sounds like they were playing Pass The Parcel and she was the parcel. Not exactly Miss Hard To Get, (though probably not hard to get rid of - just pass her on to the next guy). Rubbing your nose in it is just completely classless. He needs to get some manners.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (22 November 2009):
 You havent listed your age, so I am going to assume you are both probably in your early 20s. He really is not the full quid is he, when it comes to keeping sweet with a girl he want to re establish a relationship with.
Ask him how could he have been missing you while he was kissing and cuddling etc etc with a hot chick on holidays. Suggest that maybe he only realised he missed you when he landed back in Australia, and remembered he didnt have a girlfriend any more. Tell him that to you his very public facebook comments appear to be bragging and that it hurt your feelings.
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reader, xynebrutalis +, writes (22 November 2009):
Honesty is the best source for a happy relationship, if he hurt you tell him so. He may, or maynot have done it intentionally or directly to hurt you. If you tell him that it hurt you and he gets offensive about it then you have a problem to worry about. If he apologies for his mistake, and I mean a real apology, when your truly sorry, you don't go and do it again. But if he is sorry, then you can decide for yourself from there. Hope that helps you.
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