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writes: My Boyfriend of three years has dumped me.The reason he cited is that I slept with his best friend 9 years ago and he can't cope with that fact.He says I don't understand the male ego.I think that this is deeply unreasonable, what do you think?
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reader, lildeesbg  +, writes (14 September 2005):
 I have spoke about the male ego in many of my responses to people. There isnt that much to understand if you ask my opinion. Simply, men dont want to look or feel played, especially infront of other males. They need to feel dominant and in control at all times. Anyways, with that said. I agree with you that it is unfair,however, it was something that unfortunately, he couldnt get over. The love he had for you couldnt compete with the feeling of being played especially with by a friend of his.
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reader, Delila +, writes (12 September 2005):
No it doesn't seem like fair play to me. You must be gutted. He might be one of these guy who like to imagine that their girlfriends are are pure as freshly fallen snow, in future remember only to share things about your past that are going to make you look that way. If you are asked about how many or who then lie if the answer is more than one. In answer to who, just tell him he wouldn't know him, then name some guy he wouldn't know. This should help to keep even the most sensitive male ego intact.
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reader, pops +, writes (10 September 2005):
Well, I am male, and I don't understand his problem, either. It has nothing to do with the general male ego. He's the nut case! Run from him as fast and as far as your feet can take you. In this case, you have him pegged, and you are correct that he is being unreasonable.
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