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writes:My girlfriend wants to get off her birth control pill becuase she is not happy with the weight gain that came with it. She's currently on YAZ. She's been on it for over a year and a half now. The problem is that she was planning to stop taking it when her pack runs out next tuesday, so we went ahead and had condom free sex last night. Now she wants to stop taking the pill today instead of next week.Should I be concerned about the sperm that is still alive from last night if she doesn't take the rest of the pills in her pack? She's two and a half weeks into her pack. Is there anyway she could ovulate before all of my sperm dies out.
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (27 June 2009):
 Well it is her body so you have to respect what she wants, if she really believes it is the birth control that is making her put on weight then she is just going to have to stay off it for a while before she believes that it doesnt affect her weight!
As for you, you are right to be concerned about condoms. It is easy for them to break, for them to slip off if you go a bit "soft" down there just after you finish etc. They are only 97% effective anyway, even when they dont break. Your girlfriend is being very irresponsible by not wanting to take any birth control whatsoever, it is also your right to have a say in what you use because if you dont want to be a dad just yet then you have to take precations.
I think you can buy spermicide (not quite sure what you would do with it but I'm sure there would be instructions with it!) that will help, it will be added protection to use with the condoms. It is either use condoms and just hope for the best, or stop having sex all together. Maybe if you stop sleeping with her because you are not happy about her not using birth control then she will see that you are serious about this and she may change her mind.
Just remember it is still your right to have a say in what protection you use together, you are just being the responsible one here. She is being selfish and not thinking this through properly. Dont take any risks with pregnancy, it is not worth all the heartache and problems that come with unwanted pregnancies.
Good luck and stand your ground with her!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice. I was able to convince her to take the pill for one more day. I hope that's enough. I suggested she check out the copper IUD, but she seems adamant about staying off of any type of birth control now.
I'm a little scared to rely entirely on condoms though. I hear with typical use, up to 15 women out of 100 get pregnant due to condom failure over the course of the year. I don't really care for those odds and I'm really not ready to be a dad yet.
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (25 June 2009):
She should continue to take the pill until it runs out not only to make sure that she cant get pregnant from any previous intercourse but also to keep her periods regular, there is no point in upsetting the rhythm her body has got into whilst on the pill.
If she stops taking it now rather than next week, her body will be fooled into thinking it should have a period now, and then the next one will take ages to arrive (hence she may worry about being pregnant when it is just her rhythm settling down).
She should also note that the pill does not cause weight gain and she will not lose any weight when she comes off it. I thought the same thing and stopped taking the pill for a few months and found that not only did I not lose the weight I had gained, I actually put more weight on. It is a common misconception to blame the pill for weight gain when in reality it is because you eat too much and exercise too little! I am back on the pill now and have managed to lose around 15lbs so far, I only have another 15-20lbs to go!
She needs to see her doctor and discuss her options with regards to birth control, it is not safe for her to stop using birth control all together and just rely on condoms, there are always problems and mistakes that happen with condoms so she needs a back-up. The doctor might be able to suggest another form of contraception she can try that may not be so closely linked with weight gain (even though no medical study has ever been able to prove that the pill causes weight gain).
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, TheAgonyAunt +, writes (25 June 2009):
 Yeah she could because inside a womans body sperm can remain active for quite sometime, sometimes a few days.
So as a precaution I would keep taking them until the pills run out.
Hope this helps
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