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writes:My boyfriend has issues trusting people. I know everyone in his past has hurt him, but he never talks about it. Also, the girl he was engaged to before just left him for no reason. I want him to be able to trust me, but when I try to talk to him he always pushes me away. All he would tell me was that something happened to him in past that really screwed him up. I want to help him, but he gets defensive and wants space. Is it better to stay in his life or to give him space?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice!
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reader, doddster_24  +, writes (15 July 2008):
 hi,
with out trust you cant have a relationship. well you can but it would be pritty tought on both of you,just keep reasuring him tell him that you love him and that you would be a fool to leave someone you truely love and that you would be hurting yourself not just him by doing it. this is what i said to my girlfriend and since then weve been like peas in a pod......
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reader, agonyunclechris +, writes (15 July 2008):
 hey hun.
dont give up just because of that. i know it must be difficult for you because you havent done anything wrong, right?
well you could wait for him to open up to you in your own time. maybe thats the best option. let the trust build. if he shared his past with you then that itself would create something special. the bond that this would create would be pretty strong.
tell him how you feel. even tho he has had something happen in his past reassure him you wont do that. and that you love him. but he needs to find a way to trust you. and realise that relationships are built on trust without it how can you have a relationship
love and light
chris=]
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