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writes:Is it really better to have lost in love than to never have loved at all? If so, why does it hurt so bad. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 September 2007): I love the movie "The Mirror Has Two Faces"; in it Barbara Streisand is a teacher and is talking about why we continute to love when we know it hurts so much when it ends. Her class gives her all these wonderfully brainy, academic answers about continuation of the species etc.. and she says, "Well, that's all too intellectual for me - I think we continue to do it because while it is happening, it feels so f****ng great!"
I think the hurt you feel when it ends make all the good feelings seem so un-worthwhile. And then when you have that love again, the bad just doesn't seem like it was so bad.
You will love again & when you do, you won't remember so acutely the pain you feel [clever design of the body -- it can't reproduce emotion! You'll remember feeling bad, but you won't be able to actually replicate that pain]. The flip side is that right now, you can't replicate the wonderful feelings you did feel when you were in love.
I think the mirror really does have two faces - and it depends on which side of the mirror you're looking from as to how you feel at the time.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Yes it is. A person that never loved at all simply does not have an understanding of the world that you do now. A person can now empathise, sympathise and understand people and emotions better than someone that never loved, or was loved. PAin hurts, but as I write about, it is an excelant motivator to making the next chapter of your life better.
-Frank B Kermit author of From Loser to Seducer
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reader, bemused +, writes (28 September 2007):
 Well...I would have to agree with the other posters here. Loving someone makes life sweeter. Losing at love brings its own painful lessons but it is part of life. Why else are there the songs and the poems that relate that pain. It sounds as if you are feeling that pain now. Is the loss recent for you? Again I agree with the other posters here that...take heart...love may have departed for you recently but keep the door to your heart open and you will find it again
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reader, susu  +, writes (27 September 2007):
hmmmm, hi there, tough one kind of....but in spite of that i have a pin up in my room which says "its better to have loved and lost than to live with the psycho the rest of your life"
when u love someone its benificial for you it builds you in to who you are so yes i think it is.. if you fancy a chat and want to let of some steam email me
regards
summer
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reader, Jamer70  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 YES. in my opinion love, whatever it is, is one of the best feelings in the world. Though losing love hurts you do get over it later. But never loving deprives you of feeling love in life
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reader, Sugarbuns  +, writes (27 September 2007):
 Yes!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Its a difficult one but definately better to have loved and lost. It is lifes hardest lesson.
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reader, leanne.od +, writes (27 September 2007):
 that is one thing my gran always said that is so true.
it hurts real bad but it passes, and you'll always have the experience and memory. but you are still young and love could find you again, when you least expect it.
best of luck
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