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writes:I am writing this to you to ask for advise regarding my relationship with my husband, my husband and i have had a rough go of it and more recently i had asked him to leave our home. he left our home about a month ago, five weeks ago, he has since left town for a visit with a friend, well last week i talked to him all week and he was coming home. i was planning to go and get him with our children and he got upset with me because i did not want to talk with him while he was drunk, he has since left where he was and i am not sure where he is at because i have not talked with him for about six days now and we have no idea where he is at, his family is distant people and no one will let us know anything, how do i go on with my life not knowing where he is, if he is coming home or why he can't call us. this is tough and i am truly in a bad depression about it, i love him and just wish he was here. we have four children and they are truly hurt and confused, can anyone help me out.
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reader, rcn +, writes (27 September 2007):
 I'm sorry your going through this. Sometimes people just go elsewhere for a period of time. Its a way to clear their heads, readjust themselves, and it's not proper but it does happen where they do this with the wish of not being bothered.
I really don't know what else to tell you aside from being strong for your children. Keep good wishes, and help your kids by constructively answering questions they may ask, but without pointing fingers. Remember they love him too, and being upset like this, if the wrong things are said, it could affect them much deeper.
You were not wrong by refusing to discuss things when he's drunk. I know from being drunk a few times in the past, I have a hard enough time remembering when I get home, let alone any form of serious conversation.
I hope everything turns out the best for you and your children.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 September 2007): Next time you talk to him tell him you would like to seek counseling to help your marriage. Trust me when counseling is done right it WORKS!! Good luck and god bless.
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