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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): From your age I am guessing you are just starting out in the world of sex, and while I think you are pretty young to be doing so that's your choice and you still deserve an answer.
If you're not able to orgasm through sex with him the best thing to do is experiment, find out what things feel best, teach him and teach yourself!
Faking it will just make him think he's doing the right thing when he's not and make it worse for you. Instead of telling him what he's doing wrong during sex tell him what he's doing right and ask him to do more of it.
I don't agree with the poster who said the man is not going to worry if you've had one or not. My boyfriend isn't satisfied till I've had at least three, so they do care :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2008): I faked an orgasm once. Its not a bad thing, but its just something that you will eventually realise is pointless. Going through any sort of trouble just to fake anything is pretty useless. The only person you are really affecting is yourself. Cause he thinks you had an orgasm and he's pleased. But here you are going through the trouble of faking something. All the sweats off your back, not his.
As you get older it becomes easier and easier to just be yourself. And it feels a whole lot better to just be able to tell your partner anything and be comfortable enough to just be real. Its a good feeling.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (5 February 2008):
 If you like it , then do it, if you don't like it then don't. The man is not going to worry if you had one or not.
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reader, problemproned93  +, writes (4 February 2008):
well i dont do it all the time but what are some positions to try so i dont have to at all?
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reader, Serinity +, writes (4 February 2008):
 I really think it depends on the situation here. I myself have faked orgasisms on occasions. Once was simply to try and speed up the encounter with a guy who ended up being really lousy in bed. He said he wouldn't stop until he knew I was satisfied and I just knew that wasn't going to happen.
I've faked it a couple times with my husband because I know he can satisfy my sexual needs, but there are very few occassions where I can't peak and I don't want him to feel inadequate.
So, I would say as long as you don't make a habit out of it, especially if it's someone you plan on being with for a long period of time.
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reader, MissKin  +, writes (4 February 2008):
 It doesn't feel good to fake an orgasm does it? I think if you're having to 'fake it' you should re-establish communication with your partner and help them figure out what works for you. Faking it just means your partner will never learn what really works for you. I think you should think about it before faking an orgasm, though i can understand your reasons for doing so it's just not going to improve matters.
Take care
MK x
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reader, LovelyDove +, writes (4 February 2008):
 i don't think it's right...even tho I have done it before...try something different so next time you don't have to fake it and it comes out as a real one
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (4 February 2008):
 i personally dont think its fair to fake an orgasm it means to me that your lying to your partner x
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (4 February 2008):
 kinda yes and kinda no.
you're just making him think he's great at sex when. cleary he ain't doing it for you.
not a good thing to get into
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