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writes:Is it bad to be straight to the point?From what I hear and what I see it feels like most of my friends have gotten into relationships by "Playing it cool" and a lot of the interactions is set out like a game. Its probably not done on purpose but I feel like a lot conversations via txt or web have needed to be consulted with by someone else e.g.: me. I can understand that they just want to make sure they're presenting themselves in the best way. But it somehow feels fake to me.I've come to the conclusion before, that you should be with someone who likes you for you. And, so usually I would be just my quirky self when I meet someone.But with the success rate of my quirky friends, who play the game getting into relationships and me having none to speak of it makes me wonder if the game way is the best way to do it. To sumarise; Is there some kind of etiquette that I have to follow?Why can't I just go up to someone and say I like them! So frustrating. Reply to this Question
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reader, human_male +, writes (8 December 2013):
 I think if you're comfortable and confident enough with the straight to the point approach thats great. There is a thing as coming on too strong too soon though. That's something to keep in mind but it doesn't mean you should play games like your friends.
I think if someone really likes you they will like you regardless, unless you're going for the vapid airhead boys that are too concerned with what their mates think.
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reader, person12345  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 "The game" is one of the most annoying things people can do when they date, but frankly everyone does it and I can say firsthand it IS in fact a little odd when people I've dated didn't play a little. Sucks, doesn't it?
While honesty is nice, there is absolutely something to be said for letting a little anticipation build. Like not responding to a text the very second you get it, not wearing all your emotions on your sleeve right from the start, that sort of thing. A little mystery is never bad. That said pretending you completely don't like someone or just disappearing for days at a time just to give a certain impression is rude.
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reader, sallyanne  +, writes (8 December 2013):
Hi there. I would as playing it cool is fine at the beginning because if they are interested they sure do run. But as long as it is at the beginning as the tables could turn if u do it for to long if u like this guy then tell him but not straight away because that could push him away. My friend played it cool for a couple off weeks and now they r happily married and have been for 5.4 years so yes paying it cool can pay off
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