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writes:I've been in this" ldr" with this guy for a year now. We came to a very clear and understandable conclusion as to how things would be from the very beginning. We try our best to try to stay out of each others personal lives to avoid jealousy fits and fights. He seems to be getting to the point of wanting one of us to make the move so we can actually be together. However it wouldn't happen until after the summer. So my question is if he's becoming this serious about it, is it reasonable to feel like he should stop whatever other situation or relationship he may have out there? Of course I would be doing the same. Although I would prefer it that way, should I just leave things the way they are until the time comes to start making real moves to be together? Thanks ahead of time for taking the time to give me some advice!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2013): May I ask if you question 'Have you meet this guy in the flesh ?? 'If not then other than the info you share online calls etc that's all you know lol if you have meet spent valuable time together as a couple, dating !! Then your either going to strike it very lucky or find out that all that glitters is not gold .. Being with someone 24/7 is quite an adjustment lol and you need a very good solid foundations to take all those lil irks ( and believe me there will be) as you adjust to being a couple without it this relationship is going to crash and sweetie no one ( though we don't know you) would want you getting hurt .Ask him to come and visit for a month or so or you he.. Take it slow and as jennipeg says make your plans now .. Take care
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (8 December 2013):
 It's seven months until the summer and the planning should start right now, ideally months before. The move in does not magically happen by itself without talking it out. Are you saying he has whatever situation or relationship over there? If so neither of you should be suggesting about moving in together. Yes each individual has his own lives but if you can't trust the other to be faithful especially in a long distance relationship then how can you trust any word he says about commitment? If he doesn't say anything then your conclusion is that he was bluffing and the mention about the summer just bought him a few month's time to figure out what to say when time's up.
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