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writes:Hello, I am in a weird situation here. I work as a nurse aide and my supervisor and I have been seeing each other for two weeks now. He is so sweet to me. He always tells me how pretty I am and brings me flowers. When we are at work we keep it professional and we are good about not flirting and stuff at work. It's really odd dating your supervisor I must say. Anyways, we haven't told anybody at work as to not start conflict. All though we are the talk of weather he and I are actually dating because he picks me up for work and takes me home but he has done that almost ten months before I started seeing him I had no car at the time. Anyways my question is, is it a good idea to date your supervisor as long as it kept on the low down not tell coworkers? They might start saying I get special treatment or of the sort. That's what I'm worried about. Or should I maybe look into a new job so we aren't working together? I don't want to dump the greatest guy I've ever had because of work or work conflict; please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2011): I would say just because you present yourself with a risk of being exposed to office politics, gossip, and possible drama... it isnt worth it to keep seeing this guy unless you two are in different places of employment. Ive seen a lot of dating in the workplace and it usually ends in disaster sadly because of so many different variables. Heck, Ive even seen manipulation with supervisor/employee relationships. I was 14 once and my 26 year old manager at my restaurant said I had to take her out somewhere if I wanted to keep staring at her boobs while I talked to her lol. She was very serious and that relationship turned awkward after a bit but I didnt stare anymore cause she had reduction surgery lol. Anyway, best on this.
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reader, Cerberus_Raphael  +, writes (9 April 2011):
 No one can really say whether or not it is a good or bad idea. You feel what you feel and it seems as though you feel a lot for this man if you are already referring to him as 'the greatest guy' you've ever had. You seem as though you are willing to quite your job so you can stay with him.
You said you two are actually keeping things professional at work, I see no problem there, if he isn't giving you any sort of special treatment now, the words and suspicions of colleagues are irrelevant. I am unsure as to whether or not you should tell anyone, since it isn't a necessity, I would say, keep it quiet but look into whether or not that kind of relationship is allowed because some institutions do not have rules against such things. If there are rules against it, I would ask that you consider which is more important, being with him, or your job. It has only been two weeks so you do not truly know what he is like in a relationship. Be careful, good luck.
I hope that helps.
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