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writes:i've been in love with a good friend of mine for months now. i'm pretty sure he has no idea, but for awhile there seemed to be something between us that might have lead somewhere if i had dared to say something. but he's been dating another girl, and i haven't see him as much but i still feel the same way about him. i'll be traveling for awhile so i won't be seeing him for awhile, and i somehow feel like i should just tell him how i feel so that i can let it go, because i don't want to hold on to it any longer. is this a good idea? i don't want it to be awkward but at the same time i just feel so tired of holding it in. Reply to this Question
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reader, Ronnie70  +, writes (24 June 2011):
 Firstly, you're not in love with him. You fancy him perhaps, but actually being in love is a condition that develops over several months, if not years, of being with someone warts-and-all. If he farts in your bed and you think that's a sweet thing to do then you're in love.
By all means tell him what's on your mind but prepare yourself for being turned down or worse. If he's in a relationship it would probably be far better to let that fizzle out first. There's no harm in saying "If you weren't in a relationship I'd be chasing after you" or something similar. Unless he's as thick as a plank he'd know where you were coming from.
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