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writes:OK... So I slept with my friend (Ultimate mistake!!) And of course, me being the chick, I started to have feelings for him.I thought we could have been really good together and I know he did at one stage too cuz he told me. Anyway, I have totally ruined things between us cuz I got drunk at a pub on Chrissy Eve and acted like a fool..A FOOL!!! Hahahaha... Apparently I cracked the sh*ts at him? I dont remember this cuz I was drunk. Then he texted me to see where I was and why I left... this of course spurred on my drunken text rampage!! I couldnt stop.I think he even stopped replying and I still kept going! haha! I have kept my cool for the 6 months that we have been seeing each other, giving him space... more than when we were just mates... but i had to expect that... then I get drunk and release the WHOLE CAN of crazy on his a$$!!! My last text to him was... I cant help it, I like you... and he wrote "Obviously, You're cool, but you scare me. I dont do clingy" Well... I gotta say I was mighty p*ssed off about that message the next morning. I am NOT clingy!!! I barely even text/email him anymore and we used to talk everyday for 2 years... emailing, texting and when we werent doing that we were facebooking online... That nite I drove DRUNK and he texted all of my friends begging them not to let me drive home... so he was clearly worried about me... he also texted me telling me not to drive.. Unfortunately I dont even remember this... scary :( I have never done that before... I always catch taxis... ALWAYS... I will never get that drunk again its not worth it... I ruined my relationship with him and I could have crash and killed myself or someone else... I just lost all control!! Anyway I am highly ashamed of my behavior at the pub that nite and although I dont remember it I know that I really embarrassed myself and now people are suss about us (we kept our thing secret) He obviously doesnt have the same feelings for me and now I just feel used... I really didnt think he was the type to risk such an awesome friendship... He has never had a GF and he is 27!! He is shy and respects women... He is a really good guy... He is just not that into me and I need to move on... I didnt hear from him again after chrissy until New Years... He messaged me Happy New Years and I wrote back hours later saying the same and that I was sorry about before and he didnt reply... He emailed me and another girl today (a girl he HATES) saying "entertain me!! Im bored!!" just like old times... I ignored it tho.... I dont want to pretend like nothing happened!! We have never talked about our hook ups we pretend nothing has happened... I cant do that anymore... I get the feeling he doesnt want to talk about it either... Plus he was talking about checking out hot girls in each reply to this other chick on the emails today(I was included on the emails) I found this an immature way to say "Im not upset with you, I want to still be friends...but I dont like you and Im looking at other chicks" So I need to get over him and I cant do this with him in my face... Cuz then we will end up sleeping together again and that will confuse me more... Do you think its a good idea to just ignore him for a few months.... He will eventually give up on me... I know that... I want that to happen, I need to have time to not talk to him, see him and get over him.... What do you guys think? I wont lose him forever... I have known him since I was 3 years old... Its a HUGE deal that we have even crossed this line...
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reader, InvisibleMe  +, writes (5 January 2010):
 im confused you say that you will end up sleeping with him again and that he needs to get over you but it seems like he is trying to show you that he is over you if he is adding you into emails where he is checking out other girls.. ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): i was kinf of in the same bout last year, i just stopped all contact and told him i was majorly busy at work, then i blocked him on msn but didnt delete him from fb or anything. I just kept busy for like a month or so, and then one night i seen him out in town, and yes i was drunk too and it brought all the feelings back. To get over him, i just kept a little distance, and only talked about friendship stuff to him, and as soon as it was near that line, i told him i had to go offline, and when i person, i just changed the subject!
Now we are not the same as we used to be, but, we still are mates! Hope this helps!
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