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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have this problem I'm eighteen years old and I am already making mistakes when it comes to my relationship stats. I am a girl who has internet relationships and keeps them. My recent boyfriend Ryan who I have been talking and having a connection with for the past 8 months. We meet on web site he lives in massachettes and I live in California. I know trouble relationship already, but the worst thing about this is when month 3 came upon he proposed to me when we still havnt meet yet. I spent most of my 8 months talking, texting, and emailing this guy. He has already planned out our future and it scares me but there's more. He also has anger problems in which worries me most. As month 6 hit he was bored with me telling me that our first meeting will have to wait. Still today we have not meet and the problem Is ge is to take me to my winter formal. That is part one of it all. Part two happens after an upsetting problem happened when he hurted me. Volmerable I began to seek for a new guy to just talk to in the end I find a man who lives in the same city as me. We meet up one night after talking to each other as friends for three weeks. We sit in the car and next thing I knew we were close of having sex. Not enough room in the car for that to happen thank goodness. Feeling horrible I tell Ryan about the new guy I was seeing as first a friend then a possible lover while I felt vulnerable. (potter) Ryan tells me he understod that it was a one time thing. Losing trust from him which I understood. After the thing I kept on talking to potter and knowing the kind of guy he was. In the next two months he seems to be very similar to me in everything. Ryan still excisted but not as much for all way of connection failed on his part but one week ago I had talked to Ryan and he was drunk and tells me he had cheated on me more than once with not with women but with other things in his life. So as I found out I called potter for confert and end up having sex with him. Shocked from the next day Ryan calls telling me he is coming in three weeks for winter formal and potter being Now my best guyfriend he tells me that he is more untreated in me then the sexual needs. While Ryan is obssed with the fact sex will happen when we meet in his mind. I beg to differ for the most part. Now I have a choice between the two. The man I have been with for 8 months but lives across the country or the man I messed up the relationship with in the beginning by having sexual activity before having the bond of knowing each other. I am in love with Ryan I always have and probley always will. And potter I think I'm falling hard for him. Should I stay with the long distance or near distant man?
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reader, nicegirl10 +, writes (5 January 2010):
potter being Now my best guyfriend he tells me that he is more untreated in me then the sexual needs. ( I would have to say that this statement means a lot from a guy to say. He is basically saying he does care for you. It is going to hurt him to see you with the other guy.
When you say you have been in a 8 month relationship with this Ryan guy. Why do you say this when you have not met him? I know you can be friends and get to know someone online and then later talk on the phone. Then if you feel a connection and you feel safe meeting someone than good. But you do always have to be careful. Someone needs to know whats going on like a parent or something. If this guy comes to meet you. Make sure you are in a safe place. What if it is someone talking to you that you don't think it is. Like an older guy or something like that. I would not say its love until you know for sure when you meet.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2010): If i was you i'd forget about both guys and start again.
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