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male
age
36-40,
*entle87
writes:I'm in love with a girl since 8 months and i've had a crush on her since 17 months. We study in the same college.She has a boyfriend since 5 months who studies in her class. I didnt know she was in a relationship until last month.She wants a long term relationship and is not sure if her boyfriend wants a long term relationship with her... We are good friends since last month.. She knows me well as a person... And i've told her about my crush on her and that i like her.. She ones asked me if i think i'm in love with her.. Bt i denied saying NO coz i think it is not correct to say it to her coz she is already in a relationship..But now i feel and i want to tell her that I Love her with all my heart...Is it a bad thing to tell her that I Love her when she is already in a relationship ? I LOVE HER with all my heart my soul and i want her to know that...I've never said I LOVE YOU to any girl before..And I want to say it to her !What should i do ? Plz help !
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reader, Heartbroken in love  +, writes (8 April 2010):
I agree with the first answer. This girl asking you if you love her after you confessed your crush is just her filling her own ego. She loves the fact that you like her but really she's just enjoying the attention
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I really dont see the point in people declaring love to people they are not with. What does it actually achieve? Can't people feel that way about someone and not have to say it when the other party is unavailable, not intrested enough to make themselves available, or just plain old not interested.
Why jump from A to Z when there is not even enough interest to have established a relationship in between? Where do you envision it getting you?
Sorry, but in my opinion, if this girl wants to be with you, she will ditch the boyfriend and date you instead simply because she is interested enough to want to. Declaring you love her is not going to change HER feeling towards you, that at present, are not seeming to be strong enough to choose you over this other guy. Your feelings towards her are not going to make her feelings towards you suddenly change.
Would'nt you rather be in a relationship, and KNOW the person feels enough to at least want to be with you before you go declaring your love for them? Much better chance that you might get the same response in kind in that situation rather than the one you are contemplating doing this in.
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