A
female
age
30-35,
*bonyBlossom
writes:I am curious. I have a pretty good sex life, but I think my sex drive is a little higher than that of my boyfriend. Don't get me wrong, it doesn't bother me, because I am getting enough to keep me satisfied and I know we both love each other to pieces, but it just made me wonder... Because we all know the common stereotype that guys are a lot more interested in sex than girls. But I also heard somewhere that girls actually have a higher sex drive, but are better at suppressing it. Or maybe there is no correlation between gender and sex drive? Or maybe guys and girls view sex in a different way maybe?I dunno I suppose I'd just like to know in case anyone else has a question about it, as well as to fulfil my own curiousity. Can anyone shed some light on this?
View related questions:
sex drive, sex life Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
female
reader, EbonyBlossom +, writes (8 April 2010):
EbonyBlossom is verified as being by the original poster of the question After reading Betty Boup's answer, I think it has a lot to do with our pasts. My boyfriend is 21 and has been having sex since he was 15. I'm 18, and lost my virgninity when I was 17. I've only had sex with two people and I really didn't enjoy sex with my ex-boyfriend, so I'm still getting used to good sex. Thanks anyway =]
A
female
reader, veronika  +, writes (8 April 2010):
 Biologically, men generally have higher sex drives because they generally have higher levels of testosterone, which is the hormone responsible for sex drive.
However, some women can have high testosterone, and some men can have low testosterone. It depends on the individual. A lot of women actually have quite good sex drives, society just happens to suppress female sexuality and down-play it.
So having a high sex drive if you're a woman is quite okay, and you're not abnormal.
...............................
A
female
reader, BettyBoup +, writes (8 April 2010):
 I think its a whole bunch of things that affect sex drive. Yeh testosterone levels have a part to play. I also think attitude to sex is another issue. If you view sex as a positive thing and you enjoy it and assosiate it with good times/feelings, you are more likely to want more. If you have feelings of anxiety around sex due to worrying about your performance for example this will affect you drive to want sex.
I'm female and in the 2 long term relationships I've had, I've always wanted sex way more than my partner. This has been hard for me as I've always assumed guys want sex more than girls. I thought it would be a good quality in me that I am open and up for lots of sex. But it has only caused arguments and unhappyness for me as my last 2 guys only want it once a week. But I have been with guys, short term who were really into sex, so I know it isnt' all guys. Age and self esteem and experience all play a part. My current beau is 41 and feels that he's had enough sex now so that he doesnt feel the desire to have as much as possible, like I do, being 24. But then my ex was 21 so it really does vary. For him I think it was and issue with penis size.
Or maybe guys are a little intimidated or tunred off by a woman who is overtly sexual? That's what I'm thinking as I make no bones about how much I like sex and masturbation.
...............................
|
