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writes:Is is "better" to be a close friend to someone, or a love interest? Assuming the person sees these two things as mutually exclusive...And is there a way to transfer from one to the other? Reply to this Question
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reader, TheDarkDoc  +, writes (25 December 2009):
 I strongly agree with CARINGGUY !!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Assuming you love them but they can't feel love. I know that's strange.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (24 December 2009):
It depends how you want to be seen by someone. If you want to be the close friend, be the close friend. If you want to be the love interest, be the love interest. There is no better thing, it all depends how you feel about the other person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): I'm the poster of this question. I wasn't trying to insinuate that I have problems with self-esteem, because I don't - quite the opposite actually.
I just meant; which is more valued? The reason why I used quotation marks around the word better is because I knew it would be conceived wrongly, but I couldn't think of a more appropriate way of phrasing it.
And it isn't always a choice you can make, because as I assumed the question would imply - what if the person in question views you as a "mate" and so on, all very platonic? This can be very difficult to change, however, also assuming the person in question views the women he dates as, for lack of a better term, objects... is it better to be the "mate" who they view as an equal, or the (sole) romantic partner - this person isn't promiscuous - who is perhaps not respected so much? And, how do you deviate between the two?
I know the question was vague, and I'm sorry for that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Its not better to do anything, It is your choice.
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