How do I get over him and stop blaming myself for our breakup?

A female age 36-40, *arabear24 writes:

When I was a child I was sexually abused and when my boyfriend and I broke up two years ago I felt like he left me because he could tell I was molested. We had sex and then afterward I told him that I loved him. He told me he was not capable of loving me and it broke my heart. I thought he loved me but he told me I was to good for him and that he was going to try to make things work with his ex. At first I was ok but two years later I can't stop blaming myself. I feel like I messed things up with my soul mate. I still love my ex so much even though I have been in two serious relationships since and can't stop blaming myself. How do I get over him and stop blaming myself for our breakup?

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