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writes:So, I have been dating my boyfriend for a couple weeks now. So far I have bought dinners, lunch, he told me he needed sunglasses, and then that he needed rent. He doesnt have a car and have been running him up and down the road. I dont particularly mind, but sometimes I wonder if he is just using me, because he will not hug me, kiss me, hold my hand, or put his arm around me. He will not have any physical contact at all with me. So, is this normal? Am I expecting too much too soon? Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Best way to know if he is using you (and he is) is to stop giving him money and stop running him all over the place in your car.
Do not pay for his meals. DO not OFFER to take him places.
and DO NOT think that getting physical will change it.
I'm glad he's not physical with you, then you would think he really cares... I am betting all he cares about is your pocketbook (money) and your car (transportation)
stop providing those things and see what happens.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (23 May 2013):
 I usually say money should NEVER change hands in a couple that hasn't had sex or been together at least six months AT LEAST. Two weeks and you already paid his rent?! Sweetie, you haven't been in his life long enough to see one month of rent pass, let alone pay for it!He's a gold digger, sweetie. There are men out there with actual jobs that would be happy to have you, go find yourself one!
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Um, YES? How can you even feel the need to ask this question? Surely you know the answer. You describe him your boyfriend, he's more likely to describe you as his meal ticket, out his doormat, or his second mum. Come on. Wise up. Please. Dump him immediately and forget all about him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Op, you must be joking. He would be using you EVEN IF he'd give you plenty of physical contact,- physical contact normally is not something thay you have topay for or bribe for buying stuff or paying rent etc. And in the first two weeks ? lunch, dinner, rent, sunglasses?.. Does he even see you as a woman or just as a walking ATM machine ?...
The boy is a pimp- drop him at once , and run !
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Oh you're definitely getting used. Two weeks? That's not even enough time to CALL someone a boyfriend, and money should never exchange hands between you and a guy. Not ever!
You are a meal ticket he'll drop once the well has run dry. Lose him, because you're being scammed big time. A man with serious relationship intentions would never ask for a penny from a girl.
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Expecting too much too soon? Sweetie, he is expecting rent from you.
He is at least 18 and that is plenty old enough to provide himself with the things he needs and yes, he is definitely using you. I would break up with him, leave him, let him go cause wow.
YOu deserve much better than this guy.
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (23 May 2013):
 Hi,
Its not expecting too much, BUT you are being used financially, loose the dirt bag. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): PLease! PLease! Get rid off this man!! Can not you see what he is doing?? PLease stop to be his driver, stop to be his ATM ,,and you will see if he stills stick around you...dont be fool girl. you deserve better.
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