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writes:I have recently started dating a divorced man who has five children and two ex-wives and a night job!I have seen him only four times in four weeks and the last two times have been only brief meetings. Firstly because he was sick - he still turned up to our date but was visibly so poorly I sent him home! The second time he came to pick me up from a friends house late at night because I was stuck for a lift and he then had to go straight back to work!I really like this man and he has been very upfront with me about how busy his life and how difficult it is for him to fit in time to see me. I'm beginning to feel a bit neglected that he isn't managing his time better so that he can see me and I'm wondering if he is using his circumstances as an excuse not to date me properly. I'm trying to be accommodating but tonight I have just cancelled our date as he is being vague about what time we can meet because he is putting the children to bed. Is this a relationship I should pursue or is him telling me he is busy his way of fobbing me off???
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reader, MamaBear  +, writes (23 March 2011):
Oh my, this guy comes with a lot of baggage. Do you really want or need all this in your life? Five kids take a lot of time for parents, even if they are together as a family. My suggestion is to leave well enough alone, move on to greener pastures, and wish him well. Certainly there are other fish in the sea.
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reader, AuntyEm +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Makes you wonder why he wants to date anyone if he can never fit them in but I guess (to be fair) he was upfront about how hard it would be to fit you in so I wouldn't be taking his behaviour personally.
You have had four dates and one of those was only half a date because he was ill...How do you know you really like him or if he's right for you after such a short time?
I kno I know...you'd like the cahnce to find out more given half the chance!!
You have two choices. The first is to say adios and find someone else or the second is to accept that he's going to be unreliable, always busy and isnt likely to change...then just take what you can get!!
Pick the first choice cos I got a feeling this bloke is going to become a pain in the bum!!
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