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writes: It was my b/f's b-day. I am with him over the year. Just wanted an opinion. I remember when i was with him last summer--he would sometimes take showers when i came over and in the winter not so much..he works inside as well as outside so i can understand with the heat. He hasn't done that in awhile and i came over last night for his b-day and he said he feels he needs a shower. I guess i am looking for someone to say i am being paranoid that he did something he wasn't supposed to today with another girl and was trying hide it so i wouldn't know by showering and washing away the evidence. Is he weird he wanted to take one? or should i just believe that this particular hot as opposed to others, he felt he needed one. Help. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tinkz  +, writes (30 June 2006):
 My angel, don't over work your mind! He probably just felt like been fresh to see you! Their is nothing wrong with taking a shower, i wish more men would do that!
Don't worry i'm sure he has nothing to hide!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (30 June 2006):
 At least he wants to take a shower! It was his birthday, he was probably thinking that he would get his birthday treat later on and didnt want to be stinky.. Thats more considerate than hiding evidence. You said yourself that he took showers previously more in the summer than in the winter.. doh! does that not tell you that hes just got hot and wants to freshen up! Ditch the paranoia its also been hot this last couple of days so of course he wants to freshen up more.... The other times that he has probably taken showers when in from work is when your not there... give the man a break! If you carry on with being paranoid you will end up losing him, and it does sound as though you dont trust him, if he senses that then its not going to be a pleasant road as nobody likes to be distrusted.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): It's me who posted the question:he did joke around by saying you could join me. Either way he says he still wanted to take one.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 June 2006): Don't we also take showers to clean ourselves? If you guys were going to be intimate together maybe he didn't want to smell bad?
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reader, amelia +, writes (30 June 2006):
Give him the benefit of the doubt, you need more evidence that this - perhaps he is just hot and yes I do think you are being paranoid xxx
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reader, camille +, writes (30 June 2006):
 Have you reason to be paranoid? Bad experience in past? Did you turn up unannounced? You may well be being paranoid as he used to take showers at strange times when you first got together but..... next time he says it and you are suspicious, say you'll join him and see what hi sreaction is. I often think that gut feelings can tell us more than any evidence, so don't ignore it but either tackle it or sort out your own insecurity. The poor man may just not want to stink around his girlfriend!
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