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writes:i've been on a couple of dates with a guy - i really like him. we're both in our 30's. i met him online and after some wonderful correspondence we started going on dates. he's everything i'm looking for and we have a lot in common. when we're together the chemistry is electric - there's no denying the sexual attraction between us. i'm still shy around him though so there are still a few silences in the conversation (i guess cos we don't know each other that well yet)... i've seen him once a week for about a month now, and he always makes plans to see me again when he's with me. then he'll call a couple of days later to firm up the plans. seems like he's taking things very slow. i do know that he ended a long relationship last year, so maybe he's not eager to jump into a new relationship yet. but i'm getting confused...surely if he likes me he'd want to see me more, call me more etc? if you like something/someone, why not just go for it? i guess its a good sign that he always makes plans to see me when we're together etc. well let me know what you think - is he interested or do you think he's just confused and stringing me along? do you think its worth sticking around?
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reader, malvern  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Something is holding this guy back.What do you know of his home life?Is he seeing only you or is he also seeing others considering you met online?Is the ex girlfriend still hovering in the background?You need to carefully quiz him a little bit next time you see him.See if you can get to go to his house, it tells you a lot about a person if you can see how they live.You're obviously excited about him but try not to let that cloud your judgement of him. It's possible he's just one of those men who takes all the time in the world to click into action, which is very frustrating, but those types are usually worth waiting for. You need to assess all this for yourself before commiting yourself too much.
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reader, Mikados are lush! +, writes (27 April 2009):
 I think he sounds very sensible. If you try rushing him, it could scare him away. Whats the rush, let things go at a slow pace, and you will get to know each other in a better way. You cant count online chatting, you cant get to know the real someone on the net.
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