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writes:I am 15 and my boyfriend wants me 2 get pregnet and I'm not ready what do i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, blahblah666  +, writes (1 May 2009):
 ok listen to me. i am 16 and 6 months pregnant. my boyfriend and i were told i couldnt get pregnant so we didnt see the need for condoms. 8 months later i find out im pregnant. now, you are 15 right, thats way to young. if your boyfriend wants a baby, tell him to go make one with some other girl because i promise you the moment he gets you pregnant will be the moment responsibility will kick in and he will piss off on you. i am so glad you have the sense that being pregnant at 15 is a joke and unfair for the baby. dont mess up your life on a lowlife guy. go to school, get your education and then find a guy and settle down. im glad im pregnant but everyones situation is different. please just get out while you can.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): first of all you are too young to think about having a child. you are still a child let along having to raise one.think about your family your school and your future you have so much in life to achieve and is not like he wants to get married to you believe me he just looking for a way to ruin your life.be ready,finish school get a good job and reasonable guys will come for you.i bet you if you get pregnant for this guy you live to regret it.
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reader, Fatherly Advice  +, writes (27 April 2009):
 Nice answer Em,
I think you pretty much covered all the bases. I was wondering how old the boy in question is. Not that it matters. Any man who wants to be a father must be able to keep a roof over his family's heads and food in their tummys. Good points about education and future as well.
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (27 April 2009):
 You tell that slack of a boy that there is no way in hell that you are having his baby until both of you are finished with school and have jobs that can spport a baby!
And if he dares pressure you more, or come up with some lame argument against it, then you break up with him straight away! He is not worth your future! I beg you to not let him convince you to have a baby right now. All it will do is stress both of you out emotionally and physically.
He might tell you that it will make you two closer and keep you together forever, but honestly, it will only drive a wedge between you because you will have to think about the baby all the time, and not eachother.
don't do it. He sounds pretty irresponsible to me. Get your life on track, be a success, and then have a baby many years down the road.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (27 April 2009):
It's not hard.
You just have to say this:
"ARE YOU JOKING????? I'm FIFTEEN I'm not legally allowed to have sex till next year. Why would I want a baby? We aren't married, you can't support it, we have no where to live. Why don't you want me to have an education? Why don't you want me to be successful and buy a house and PROVIDE for my kids rather than being so low in society that the government has to give me a few pennies each week so the kid doesn't STARVE????
If you loved me then you'd respect me and my body and see that I am not going to be a teenage mum and get looked down on by everyone in the street.
If you loved me then you would want me for me and not try and force me into some ridiculous scheme."
Tell him that you want him to be earning at least £16k a year and then show him an engagement ring that he has to buy you (an EXPENSIVE one) before you'll have his kids.
Then go to the family planning clinic and get on the pill, or even better the injection or the implant. ALWAYS check his the condoms for holes.
There is absolutely no way you should be planning a baby at your stage in life. Don't you have any dreams? Don't you want to BE something in life?
You are better than living on benefits.
Good Luck!! xx
PS. Feel free to cut and paste my answer and email it to him. What an idiot you've picked as a boyfriend.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): Just say your not ready, there is no complication here. Tell him you're both too young to raise a child and you're not going to do it, no matter what he thinks.
Make it very clear to him, that it's not going to happen, if he persists that he still wants to get you pregnant then you should dump him, or at least refuse to have sex with him, he could tamper with the contraception to get what he wants.
Personally I'd dump him just for suggesting it, because he sounds like a complete idiot.
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