A
female
age
41-50,
*upid lover
writes:A man that I was seeing for 3 months has gone overseas. He has been gone for 4 months and I knew as soon as I started dating him that he would be leaving very soon to take this trip. We were crazy for each other so we went ahead and kept dating anyway. Everything has been fine so far since he has been gone. He is a very trustworthy person and considerate. I have been following his travels on Facebook and we have been in contact. He has become friends with a lot of girls as he has been going along but so far it hasn't bothered me because I can see that they are truly platonic friendships and nothing more and he has hardly spent any time with each one. There is one girl however who he is planning on meeting up with in her country (Ecuador). He has also written on her wall quite a few times and commented on her photos. There is an alarm bell going off in my head and I am wondering if I should bring this up with him. Since he has been gone he hasn't said that he misses me or been suggestive to me through email in any way. But before he left he said that he would not be sleeping with anyone or dating etc while he was away and we would be together once he got back. In my book it is not normal to travel around for months on end while you have someone at home and befriending girls on Facebook and making plans to meet up with them again. He isn't hiding it from me so I guess he thinks that this makes it OK. This guy hates jealousy so I need to be sure that saying something is the right decision. He is an amazing person just a bit of a wanderer and I don't want to cause an argument while he is away.....that never goes well. I don't want any drama but feel like I am being trodden on a little......taken advantage of/unappreciated etc. This is the Facebook conversation:HIM- Hi ...how are you? I´m flying to Lima from Brazil in a few days...then will be making my way up to Equador! I hope we will get a chance to catch up :) HER: That's great! sure we will, just tell me when you'll be arriving a few days before you get to Ecuador, are you coming to Quito? HIM: Great...I arrive on the 26th in Lima and then I will start making my way to Equador. Can you advise some good places to visit on the way up before arriving to Quito? Are you working or do you have time off still?HER: You could go to X , a really nice city, and then to the Y National Park, pretty close to X, it has a lot of lagoons and some wild animals, even condors (but you already watched them)... or... go to Z , a big city and then to Q, a really nice beach... and then go to R... HER: Now I still have time off, so maybe I can go with you to some close and nice places from here (A)...I'm travelling to the jungle on thursday but I'm coming to P on Monday August 1st so I think we will catch up for sure! HIM: Thank you for the tips. It would be great if you are able to join me to visit some places! I´ll aim to be in X around the 1st or 2nd then.Enjoy the jungle! Speak soon.I confronted him and asked him what was going on here....... this is the reply that I got:HIM: Yeah, a contact I met when (friend) and I were in Cuzco. She is a local and said if I was going to be in Quito to make contact and she could show me around....not the safest place, so it will be good to know someone there!Any thoughts about this would be appreciated. Is he taking me for granted and what do you think that I should do?
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reader, dominic pusel  +, writes (31 July 2011):
 from what i have read, this guy of your is going to flirt, big time, and he is not even hidding it from you because he has told you he hates jealouscy, he may be realy in love with you but you see he has to keep body and soul together, but why is he letting the world know about it? Pls get ready for the bombshell.
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