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writes:Hey guys,Ok so my bf (20) and I (22) have been seeing each other for about three months now. But I can't help but question if he really is gay and not bisexual like he says he is. With in these three months he hasn't tried to make a move sexually at all, he hasn't tried to pash me, touch or anything! I give him little hints that I want to do things, but he either rolls over and goes to sleep or ignores me....When I met most of his friends, they told me they were blown away that he told them I was his girlfriend and that that always thought he was gay. The way he speaks and acts have raised a few eyebrows including my friends and family who have met him.Is my boyfriend gay?? Does anyone understand this,I've never been in this situation before! Help??
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2010): You should maybe move beyond giving him 'little hints' and be much more sexually forward. Jump his bones. Dress up like a thousand dollars and hop on him and whisper in his ear all about what you want to do to him. That way, if he's not into women at all, at least you'll find out for sure, and you'll know that it's not your fault and no reflection on you.
Either way, you need to find out what the story is. Three months of going out with him and no sex? That's more than long enough. You share a bed and he hasn't once laid a hand on you? Not good. He says he's bisexual - it sounds to me very very likely that he's 110% gay. Put it this way, you already know he likes men. Teling you he was bi, in one sense, may have been a way of 'coming out' to you. But he's either into girls sexually or he isn't, and he owes it to you to be honest. The only way to find out is to ask him. Directly.
Good luck, let us know how it goes
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reader, Myrrh  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 It sounds as if hes gay rather than bisexual. If you are sleeping with him but hes never shown any interest in being intimate with you thats rather odd.
Maybe he likes you alot and thinks the only way to secure you (so you wont flit out of his life) is to play the boyfriend card. Its been known to happen. Ask him whats going on because you are starting to wonder.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (25 May 2010):
 It's hard to comment when you don't know a person but my suggestion is to ask him. It may be the push he needs to come out.
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