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writes:I joined a dating site back in Sept and after a few weeks I met someone. We went out on a date and met up a few times before christmas but with conflicting schedules we kept in touch casually. Im suppose I was old fashioned at teh begining and I would never have initiated contact first but would certainly reply if he contacted me. He told me around christmas time that he was a virgin and had very little experience with women. I found this very endearing but was aware that he may have one thing on teh agenda. After christmas we began to see each other every week and over the past few months its been great getting to know him.It was Valentines last week and I am a very romantic person, he is not and believes the day is a hallmark occassion, I of course put it to him that if he wanted to make an impression that saturday the 14th was the day to do it. And true to form he did we had a lovely meal out and drinks and we ended teh night by sleeping together.This week has been strange, I havent reallly heard from him, Ive initiated contact on two occasssions and I suppose we are both busy working opposite shifts this week and Ive been working the weekend.I suppose my question is, Is he really into me or was I just serving a purpose? Im very confused and Im afraid to ask him whats going on as he'll think Im too needy. Im a very independent person but Ive started to have feelings for him and I dont know whats happening. Does anyone out there have an answer?
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reader, sappygirl  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 hey tedster..
It's not that women are "dumb" It's just that when we like someone, we want to trust what they say and believe them. Is that so wrong? I use to believe everything a guy say to me..and its sad but now everytime a guy speaks all i hear are lies. I understand now that men only want one thing.
and its not a serious relationship.
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (22 February 2009):
Mario is right: You were so played. Some women are so dumb. (Sorry if that's harsh). He's now on line telling the next chick that he's a virgin. He may circle around again top you for a bootie call if he hits a dry spell. Don't fall for it. But there are pletty of nice girls who are just ready to be used; girls who can't tell the difference bewteen truly nice guys (who they often don't give the time of day to) and the "nice" guys that are just players.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (22 February 2009):
i think he is needing his space to soak up everything in.
Since you guys arent really together, i say just wait for him to come around. You already made the effort and he doesn't then you'll know that he really wasn't into you.
He could be lying about the whole virgin thing.. or he could be the biggest player using that line.
Whatever the case, there is nothing you can do but continue on with your life and try not to think about him.
The more you push for answers he'll run ..so just stay calm and see what he does. his actions will give you your answer
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reader, mario4hustle +, writes (22 February 2009):
sorry boo, you just got played. we love to pretend to be virgins so you will feel like you are our first. work of advice, stay protected. long live the game!
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