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writes: Do you always listen to your intuition,or you just say no to it?I do.I know long time ago ,that my intuition is suffering from repressing it, but if I go with it, I must leave my husband ,and that is the biggest step in my life , after I went to live this life with him.I always know something wasn't ok with him, but now its more and more clear.We have no sex 3 years ago ,after a huge argument he went limp, and since than he just cooled out...He is acting weird, but whenever I say ,what I think,he says''its all in your head dear''Now I live like this years ago, that I say something , and he says,I'm crazy.That sure makes me very insecure.SO how sould I listen to my own intuition,if I never seem to trust it?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 February 2009): Yes, thanks for your answers. I think everybody had a good point here.
Yes I think it is self deseption,and he can't help it. Things are gone way back to his subconcious and who will be able to figure that out without him.
I wish, if the counselling would be a way, but it isn't anymore.I think I did everything to try to get to the bottom of this, but with no results.
I'm so afraid I need to leave. I know I'm not alone,with a situation like this, but his self deception makes everything much harder.
Yes I must learn to respect myself more,thank, I work on it, but still need more improvement.
I still wonder how am I going to make my final step. What do you think /? thanks
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reader, Sweet-thing  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 Never underestimate the power of your intuition. You have to ask yourself if you are prepared and willing to live in a marriage without sex, which is a huge part of any marital relationship. Before you give into your intuition, suggest marital and sexual counseling. If he says no, then it's time for you to leave. If he says yes, then that's a good sign that he may be willing to work on the problem he's having. Right now he's messing with your head, playing mind games on you and it's working. Do not let this continue. He has a choice. He should chose wisely. Otherwise, I would not hesitate to go. I wish you the best.
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reader, yum yum  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 I believe you could be scared to listen to your own intuition because that means that you would possibly have to take some drastic measures. Your husband seems to be too defensive when you ask him whats wrong with him. He should ask why you are under the impression there is something wrong, and not say that you are crazy and its all in your head. He could be in denial over his problems and/or not wanting to tell you his problems. He could also be in the state of self-deception or/and self-deluted over his problems. Ask him some quistions and tell him that you think he could be in denial over his problems because you think he is acting in a too defensive manner. You should talk too him about all your feelings to get it of your chest. You should not feel bad for doing that because he is your husband. Take care and good luck!.
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reader, PeterPan  +, writes (22 February 2009):
 This is a classic trust issue... although this time, it's turned around and pointed right back at your head. Your real solution is to (in cliche terms) learn to love and trust yourself again. I suppose that having had so many hits to your ego, you've learned to doubt and double-think yourself constantly. It sounds like you need to probably tune into those emotions and intuitions and start to believe in them again. This will come with time, but if you're looking for a guide, I would suggest going to a local bookstore or library and browse the self-help section for books on learning to love yourself.
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