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writes:I know this is long, but I really need your help! :) A little back story: So I recently asked my "boyfriend" whether he would consider us to be dating or not. He said not really since school ends in 2 weeks and we won't see each other for 4 months (we're both in university and we'll be about 5 hours away from each other during the summer). Before this we've gone on a couple of dates, watched movies together, and held hands. When I approached him with this question, he did say that he did want a relationship with me, but he can't do long distance over the summer. So, guys, does that mean that he will want to start again in September? Or should I just move on? Any help is appreciated!
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 Hey sweetness,
I would just move on for now - LDR's can be great for some and a pain in the butt for others. 5 hours away from each other is a pretty big commitment and you haven't really established anything serious together. It sounds like you've had some fun during school... and perhaps in September, you'll both be single and go out on a few more dates. But, until then I would considered yourself free for the summer. If you find someone new who you're really attracted to, have fun with and enjoy - hooray! And, if you're still available in September, at least you have options. But, I wouldn't keep yourself off the market for the summer...
Good luck!
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reader, Ted-ster +, writes (7 June 2009):
Well, at least you found an honest guy, or a really dumb guy, or a realy dumb, honest guy (likely the latter;). He's really not that into you, however. So don't sleep with him! Clearly the response should be that, of course he wants to continue the relationship, that he really cares about you, and that he's really going to miss you terribly, and that he will find a way to see you. But he's looking at tagging chicks over the summer, and not even thinking about you. His idea of a relationship with you is, bluntly, a "filler," until he meets someone he really cares about. But don't hate him: He clearly sees you as a friend, and he certainly must have respect for you. He must think that you're not a dope -- otherwise he would have put the moves on you, and said how much he loved you, then slept with you, and left you. My sage advice is to maintain a friendship with him, but not a relationship with him. So you can drop the quotes around boyfriend, and just happily call him your friend, if you wish. He's not, and should not, be considered your boyfriend. You can do better. And you should expect better.
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reader, princessjasmine +, writes (7 June 2009):
if he cant do long distance over the summer, then he probably doesn't want you for the long run..if he cared, he'd do long distance...looks like ur going to have to say peace out to him, if he asks y, b like, i want someone who cares about me enough to stay with me even if it were thousands of miles away! good luck, i know its hard but you gotta b strong!
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