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writes:Is he into me or is it just sex? We have went on trips together and we see each other once a month. We don't spend much time talking on the phone. We usually just call to say hi and ask how each other is doing. We have spent time together with out having sex and we have also spent time together that led to sex. He spends the night with me at my place sometimes and vice versa. He has sent a message saying that he loves me and he has also sent a message that says I am incrediable. Is he into me or does he just send those little messages and see me once a month just for sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2008): well it seems as if the guy really does like you but he can't make up his mind wether he wants to committ to you or not..if that is all you want from him then honey have a free for all..but if you are looking for more and want a more profound reaction out of this man..i say hold off on the sex and see if he keeps coming around, sometimes abscense does make the heart grow fonder and most men lets be honest..like a challenge. If everytime you hook up and its just sex what you walk in with you leave out the relatinship the same way. ASK him if he is really interested in anything permanent with you..if his eyes start to dart around the room or he starts to stutter or mumbles words..yanno he just wants the panties girl..TRASH HIM AND MOVE ON.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone for your responses. I have decided that I will be having the conversation with him soon and I will be asking him the same question that I asked here. I will keep you guys posted.
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reader, jezz  +, writes (1 September 2007):
 that is definately out of order he is in it for the sex and you should ask him what you have asked us and if he says something along the lines of but i really like you but i have ties get rid of him straight away!
good luck chick x
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2007): Yeah, it's just sex. But if you want it to be more you should tell him that you like him and want it to be more. If he says he likes things the way they are, then you have to decide if you are happy with that or if you want something more.
And next time if you like a guy and want it to be more than just sex, make sure that he REALLY tries hard to see you everyday, and take you out to dinner and woo you and make you feel confident that he is your friend and that you can count on him and that he is always available for you and that you are #1, before you sleep with him.
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reader, duce00 +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Maybe you should ask him the same question you asked us. When you get a chance to be face to face just shoot straight with him. Tell him your not really sure whats going on.
He says he loves you and maybe he just needs a little nudge to start taking the relationship to the next level.
Us guys can be real knuckleheads sometimes. Its ok to spell things out slowly when we are being dense. Quite often it is just what we need!
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reader, kenny +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Its hard to say, like Escalaya says he could be just shy about talking on the phone.
I think communication is the key here, get together with him and have a proper chat and ask him what is really going on here as you want to know where you stand.
My guess woud be that he does like you as he say he loves you and that you are icrediable. But as i say have this chat with him, and soon.
Good luck x
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reader, Escalaya +, writes (1 September 2007):
 Well.. the lack of contact suggests that maybe he is only in it for the sex. How ever, if he's anything like me (I'm incredibly shy on the phone, and HATE talking any other way other than face to face.)
Best possibility would to be to tell him that the lack of talking, and just hanging out makes you feel like he's not here for a relationship, or something along those lines.
Best of luck, take care~
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