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writes:I've been seeing a guy for several months now on the DL; we're just friends with benefits and have agreed that there's no strings attached. I'm 19 and he's 34. Well, today is my birthday and last night I went by his place for some fun and ended up staying the night. This morning, I went to leave and saw my sociology professor walking up to the apartment next to ours with a basket of laundry! Then I remembered that a few weeks ago, the guy told me that she lived nearby...little did I know he meant next door!Now, I mean, the guy and I have done some out-there stuff, including on his balcony that overlooks the parking lot. I come by 1-3x a week. The idea of someone seeing us, or of getting caught, has always turned me on. I'm kinda loud, but this has me wanting to be even louder! Additionally, he's really into spanking and I'm beginning to wonder if she's ever heard us. But again, this is my PROFESSOR we're talking about. And I've always taken great care to make sure that nobody on campus knows what this guy and I are up to. We work together, for one, and I'd never want my bosses to find out because both he and I have GREAT reputations with them. Additionally, there's the age thing--I know that plenty of people wouldn't approve because "he's preying on a young woman" and she's "nasty for seeing someone that old" or whatever--neither of us want to start that crap for the other by having people find out. So is it normal that I'm turned on by the thought of my professor hearing us, knowing what we're up to, and if she hasn't already, figuring out who I am (I only had her for a 3-day class last summer but I see her all the time)? Thoughts?
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reader, derek64g  +, writes (12 September 2010):
by the age of 19, I think most guys or girls know well enough what they can and can't handle. so what if he's 34. im 28 and I enjoy seeing women in their 40's. As for the being hear/caught, it always adds to the excitement of anything sexual, for sure.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): Oh, and HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!!!!! :)
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (7 September 2010):
 Pretty normal. The 'I may be watched/heard' is a very common fantasy. I knew a girl who loved to give oral in the storage rooms at the supermarket where she worked for that very reason - at some point she knew she'd be heard/seen.
Just - be careful, use your head, don't do anything that may be detrimental to your career. My friend got fired eventually for her shenanigans, so...be aware, right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionmizz: We work for the same department at the university we're both attending. He's here getting his Master's and his second BS, and I'm here getting my first BA. He's working my old job, and I have to go by his workstation where he's the Web Content Manager in order to get to the fax machine every few hours in order to distribute everyone's faxes. He got the job in June and we always made small talk, and I eventually realized he was flirting with me. Eventually, I asked him out to lunch and he accepted, and invited me to his place for a movie. Things went from there...at least, once we made it clear that neither of us wanted a relationship and wanted things to remain on the down low.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (6 September 2010):
 where did u meet this man?
And I see nothing wrong with you being with him,i think she already suspects something is going on since she saw you there and probably heard you as well.just ignore her and make sure she doesnt get to tape yall,otherwise you'd be in trouble.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Thinking that people might hear turns me on too so i think its normal
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2010): Theres no accounting for what turns one on...just make sure that you dont let your good sense go out the window (and fall off of the balcony) to the point of endangering either of your careers. mal
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