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writes:I split up with my ex 8 months ago,after a 2.5 yr relationshipwe was engaged and i was his first love since that day we have been n/c. we ended due to him wanting space - it turns out he had a break down that him push me away.i have seen him a 2 x since we split once when i stopped and chatted the next time i just said hi and walked on.Last night when i was out with my friends i saw him, i went over and said hi his face lite up when he saw me and gave me a big hug, asked who i was there with.he spent the whole night with me chatting to me talking about what we been up to how i am etc.i said i better go and see my mates and ill come back in a bit.i went out to the smoking area with my fieneds he was out there talking about me with his work mates, they asked him how long we was together he said 2 years his mate said shes beautiful, he then said there is nothing there now. i turned round and he walked offthat hurtlater on we was talking again he said he still thinks of me everyday, thinks of me when he hears songs, remembers when everyones birthday is close to me and thinks of me and them on that day. he missed me on his birthday when it was 3 weeks ago. When he sees a car the same as mine he automatically thinks it me when he sees a dog the same of mine he hears me calling it.i offered him a lift home and he accepted. when we got outside his house i suggested we should meet for lunch he accepted again i asked him if he still had my number he does - all my numbers, mum dads nan uncles sisters, any number where i may be he has still got in his phonehe asked me if i still sleep all huddled up and if i still nick the covers i said yes, he said ah like sleeping beautyhe admits that he still has all my stuff i have given him, and always think of me. and when he is out somewhere he think i will be he looks for me and everywhere he goes the memory is there and any small blonde he thinks is mewhen we said goodbye he hugged me so tight and held me hands then hugged me againwhen i was sitting with him talking my stomach hurt and my heart was beating fast but he seemed like he was when we first metIs he over me or just saying there is nothing there so he dont look like a wimp in front of his work mates or is he just playing gameshope this all makes sence
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 October 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your answers both have made me feel better about what i heard! im just worried now that he wont get in touch and meet me. i have left it up to him to get in touch as he was the one that broke it off.i have never had a break up b4 so when ur over someone they are not there not so much are they? in your mindAnother thing that happened maybe its me reading to much into it but when we was chatting he kept wanting my water as his throat was dry, is this nerves?sorry im trying to make sence of it all but feel a bit better
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reader, jabey +, writes (25 October 2008):
it sounds to me like there is an awful lot there for him, with him saying all those things to you it sounds like this guy has not got you out of his head one little bit.
I think in front of his friends he said that as sometimes men dont want to open up their true feelings in front of their pals, so ignore that.
Well now I guess you must protect yourself, and decide if you want him back. If the answer is yes then this is the advice i offer. Meet him for lunch but keep it light and on a friendly note, do not act too eager to get back with him, follow his lead. By no means end up having sex with him, just keep it as purely platonic for now and see it as nothing more.
In time if you start to meet reguarily you will gauge, if he has intentions to get back with you, as long as he feels no pressure from you ( no weeping and wailing )
Good luck it all sounds very positive to me, just be patient and take it slow xxx
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