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writes:Well my ? to everyone is.. i have a girlfriend that ive been with for about 10 months.. and she had cheated on me in the begining of are relationship and soon stoped when she relised we had something seriose.. but she has told me she is sorry and doesnt want me to leave her.. but everything she says to me i think is a lie.. i cant trust her.. and i feel like she is talking to someone else all the time.. even though she says she made a mistake she regrets and that im the only one she ever wants... i need help finding away to trust.. to forgive her.. i love her and want to believe her when she says im the only one.. i just cant.. please help.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (17 March 2010):
 Apparently , your love is not deep enough to trust and forgive her .
If you love her truly , you would not care at all about what she has done.
You need to wipe her slate clean and start all over again and let the past go.
Time is a great healer.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 March 2010):
See, I'm of two minds. Half of me says that you should dump her and move on to someone who won't cheat.
The other half says that she has come clean, and certainly appears to have stopped it. She certainly appears to be sorry for what she has done. So maybe she is worth a chance.
If you want to continue with this, she now has to be open. She can't have secret texts, or secret emails. You have to effectively start all over again. Go out on dates, have fun, and just start over. It will take you time to trust her again, but people have managed to fix relationship before. If, of course, the trust is not there in a year, or if there are still major doubts, then you need to move on.
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reader, DannyB +, writes (17 March 2010):
 this is usually hard and takes a lot of thinking and a lot of understanding on your part. This whole situation depends on if you want to be with her. the best way if you do is to not keep going back thinking about the acted she committed and move on and treat it as a mistake. I won't lie you two will probably stay together for a while longer unless you truly forgive her because sooner or later shes gonna get tired of you bringing it up.
the best way for trust to develop is time and my guess it you do trust her because your still with her...so that must say something. just hang in there and know that at the end of the day it's either you do or don't and only you can decided that.
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