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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:ok, so there is this guy I have been seeing for about 3 weeks now. But I dunno if I should keep this going, I feel it makes me sound shallow when I say this but I am not attracted to him in a phyical since. He is perfect for me in every way except there is not that spark I feel no need to be phyical or close to him....because I dont find him attractive to me in that way, so would that be shallow of me to break up with him for that? It also kinda worries me that he has become so crazy about me so fast....he is already talking about children and getting married and moving in together....and I am not ready for that I have other things on my mind right now like trying to finish schoolin at the commmunity college and taking care of the one daugther that I have now and work, I am not ready for making that kind of commitment after only 3 weeks of dating....is there something wrong with me thinking he is moving way to fast with things?
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reader, Sydnee  +, writes (8 February 2010):
Dear Anon
If you need to ask if he is moving to fast, then Yes he is moving too fast
everyones relationships move at different speeds and this is obviously moving at a speed you don't feel comfortable with
talk to him
tell him that you fell he is a perfect boyfriend and any girl would be more tha lucky to have him as a boyfriend but you feel he is moving to fast for you and unfortunately you dont feel a physical attraction
an attraction to the other person is essential to make a realtionship work and it is something that cant be earnt over time my best advice would be to get out now for both of your feelings and let him find someone who loves him and he loves in return just as you should too
Good Luck
Sydnee x
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