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writes:A friend of mine and me used to talk on a daily basis last year and got a little to close. He moved and now is in a situation in which we cannot talk as much, but I didn't realized that until today when he send me this, I work in a comm company so he sent me the following:"I do not understand why we go back and forth about how often we communicate. You are much more in touch with communications than I am. Just because I am not quick to reply to a message from you does not mean that I do not care about you as a friend. You have my information and you know what's going on with me."He replied that when I told him I knew he didn't had the time to waste on me now. I wanted our relationship to improved not to go backwards and now it seems I almost losing hi m as my friend as when he says it's not necessary anymore to communicate as before and he has better things to deal now. Is my time to forget about him? Reply to this Question
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reader, sha9991  +, writes (24 February 2011):
I am glad to hear a happy result! I am also happy to be of help! All the best for the future! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYou were right. He did contacted me so I think everthing is fine as much as we are friends as always.Thank you!
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reader, sha9991 +, writes (21 February 2011):
My advice is everything in life you chase,runs away,it he wants to be friends he will contact you,if not his lose but don't contact him first,easyier said than done,I know! But otherwise it's just one sided,and that's not good! Don't think of yourself as a waste of time,your our worthy of peoples time!
Give him space and she what happens,if nothing oh well! There's a big wide world out there,so hang-out with mates and met new people,there's plenty of guys out there,who would love to waste time with you! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, the thing is that he has changed and I think is b/c is he's with someone and now he doesn't have the time to "waste" on me when he did almost daily. The thing is he denies the fact he's with someone and that he doesn't have time for me.
He is military and we have been friends for 4 years now, but we became close last year he was deployed and now he's home he's over with me. I replied him this:
"Yes XXXXX you are right. Maybe I wrongly got use too much of contacting you that I didn't realize how things changed now that you are home. You mean a lot to me as a friend so please know that if I send you stuff and bother you this much is because I worry for your well being. Its not the same with someone I see every day than with some one I never get to see especially with the type of job you have."
I really don't know if he'll keep in touch now I wanted him as my friend, but I will no longer have hopes on whether he'll keep it up or not.
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reader, sha9991 +, writes (9 February 2011):
It sounds to me that at one point or another,he could have wanted to be more than friends with you, there could be another girl involed now? but he has moved on either way,and to him he sees you has just a friend and no more now! If you wanted more than friendship from him? I wouldn't waste your time with him and move on like he has! Find someone who deserves your time and effort! :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): It honestly looks like you are pressuring him for more than a friendship. I would forget about him like you said if you can't stop yourself from doing that. Friendship isn't about guilt trips like you said about him wasting his time on you..that destroys friendships, just so you know.
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