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writes:I've been married 10 years and 2 young children. A year ago I found my husband had been on internet dating sites and had been chatting to dozebs of other women, having dirty emails and met up for sex with some of the women he met, all behind my back for about 6 years. I had no clue this was going on, didnt suspect a thing as he was doing it from his work. I do not work and havent for about 5 years. I have been trying to reconcile with him for the past year despite the pain and betrayal and anger. I dont know whether I should continue with this marriage even though he seems remorseful and promises he would never do it again and has shut down his email accounts. However I still catch him looking at other women. Should I stay or go and lose everything to become an unemployed single mother and is he likely to cheat again based on his history? Reply to this Question
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 I think it is better to stay and work out the differences with your husband. Single ,unemployed and at your age can be a lonesome and dark road.
Life can be very tough when you are alone and with 2 kids. Leaving may seem to be the answer to your problem .But by leaving you will be countering other new and more problems in life.
I would prefer to stay and fight for the marriage unless there is no more hope,10 years is a long time.
History can be wrong.It is not always right.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (2 June 2010):
Given that he has cheated so much before, he will do it again. Time to take him to court, take him for as much as you can and move on.
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reader, baddogbj  +, writes (2 June 2010):
 Yes. I'm sorry but yes. If he has the opportunity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2010): Heck thats not good. He was cheating for over half of your married life. Only he knows if it will happen again. It may do if hes still eyeing them up in front of you. He sounds very thoughtless. I admire you for sticking with him and trying to forgive him. If you are daily asking yourself if you still want to be with him, then you probably dont. And you are just staying because its better than the alternative. Try couples counselling with him. See if it helps. If you do decide you can no longer be with him theres no shame in that. And you shouldnt have to move. He should be the one to go. Find a lawyer or solicitor and they will tell you how to go about protecting yourself and the children, against being left homeless and penniless. Good luck x
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