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writes:He hasn't contacted me for a week, and now he has tried to call me again!. What is his game?.I recently posted on here about a guy I met. I said that we had been meeting up with each other for a week, but I told him that I didn't want to date him, as I still wasn't over my ex. The last time I saw this guy was last Wednesday. He said he would take us out for a meal the next night. I tried to call him a few times the next day, to make arrangements for seeing him that night, but he didn't answer his phone. I didn't hear from him at all until this morning. I haven't answered his calls, and I haven't called him back. Should I speak to him, or should I just ignore him?. Do you think he is going to try and come up with a lame excuse?.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (25 April 2014):
 I don't think it's cruel. Cruel would be to tell you to met him a the restaurant and order for the both of you, and THEN never show up, leaving you with two meals and the bill.. THAT is cruel.
You want a friend, he doesn't. I think it's that simple. Besides he seems like quite the flake, so I'm not sure why you are bothering with this guy. (as a friend or potential date)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 April 2014):
 Well, if basically he stood you up- he had promised to take you out for a meal but he never followed through- of course he is going to came up with an excuse. If that excuse will be lame, or valid and believable, it will be up to you to judge.
Although, you told him you don't want to date him, or you are not sure that you want to date him, well, it's just natural that this cooled him down . I mean, if it's just about going out for meals, I bet he's got friends he can take along , he does not need to invite you.
Nevertheless, yes, going AWOL , not a call to say " rain check " , ... I would not call it " cruel ", cruel is a big word, but it's surely rude. He'll better have a GOOD excuse !
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2014): Hi Honeypie. Yeah, maybe he didn't like me saying that I wasn't ready to date yet. But, I still think it was cruel that he said he would take us for a meal, and then he didn't answer his phone, and he has taken his time to call me again. I told him that I wanted to be friends for the moment.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (24 April 2014):
Why do you want to met up if you don't want to date him? Maybe you should kind of focus on getting over the ex?
I mean if I went out with a person and they told me, hey I don't want to date you, I'd back off too.
If you REALLY want to know why he called, why not answer next time he calls?
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