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writes:Hey everyone,There is this married handsome guy I see around,we work in the same place but in different departments..we don't see each other every day!So whenever he sees me that would be once in like 2 or 3 weeks,whenever he passes by he would pass a comment just something random or make small talk..We tease each other,he works in the lab so I was teasing him about how long his coat is and he would tease me abt how 80's my headband is..is this flirting?or just being playful..is it wrong?I definitely don't have any other intention with him other than being playful.am I wrong?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 September 2013):
 FLIRTING IS PLAYFUL and it's not necessarily a gateway to sex.
I am married (and will NOT cheat) but I'm an outrageous flirt and my hubby knows it and accepts it as part of my personality.
I agree if it's a co-worker... NO out of office events that are just you two... (except maybe going out for lunch if this is common at your location I do it here with a young man I'm very friendly with)
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2013): Mild flirting and jokey banter seem to be the norm in many workplaces now. It makes the day pass quicker and more pleasantly
The problem is when people try to move this out of the workplace (meeting up or texting out of work hours) or by making it beyond mild flirting by touching, making more personal sexual orientated remarks.
"Your hairband is really 80's" is a bit of banter, possibly flirtatious "Your hairband makes you look really sexy" is beyond banter.
Keep it friendly and be polite but don't flirt back. Many married guys will banter and flirt without any intention of being unfaithful but a woman who knows he's married should not attempt to up the game.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 September 2013):
 I agree with Denise.
Keep it friendly and no more. I seriously doubt you want the mess that comes with a married man.
It doesn't mean you can't small talk or joke around, as long as you keep it above board. From what you wrote it seems like friendly banter, no more. And that is JUST fine.
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (5 September 2013):
 Married? That says it all. It doesn't matter if you see him every day or once a week: the point is with all this teasing (mutual or not)there is a risk that he might misinterpret what's going on (unless he's deliberately TRYING to flirt).
Be friendly, smile and greet him when you first see him, but you'd do better to let it go at that.
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