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writes:I don't understand my ex. He puts on the full court press and then I don't hear from him for 4 days. Is he just afraid of putting it out there again since he is afraid of his own feelings? word on the street, since I am new to the area is that he is a great guy but very emotional. Or is he just a horn-dog pig wanting me in the sack? I mean I know what it going on with him right now and he is busy - the leader of the pack with a lawsuit in his neighborhood. and then I got upset since he did not call and said I would only be friends not FWB and he said it is not that at all. How can one have this great chemistry without feelings. I mean sex is sex, but this is chemistry all the way. Believe me and he admits it too, I have only had this one other time in my life and I was much younger. But who knows he is an ostrich, can't figure this one out. But love him. But really if he wanted me back why did I have to wait 4 days of ultimate torture with him not calling. Do men really cubby hole thier feelings when they are involved in things like this lawsuit which is mostly by the men in the neighborhood - guy bonding? I always thought he was honest but maybe there is someone else, but if there was someone else why would he be with me? Or is he just the utlimate pig? If I call him when he is in the meeting and he can't get me back he goes bonkers. This is the most confusing man I have ever met. Perhaps he is fearful of his feelings or is he just a jerk? HELP.
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reader, natmarie  +, writes (7 August 2009):
 Four days is not too long..but it is a bit too long if you get my drift!! Have you ever rea dthe book. 'He's just not that into you' by Greg Berendt & Liz Tuccillo? it really hleps, not saying that this guy is not into you though. :o) I don;t think the lawsuit is a good enough reason for him not to be attentive, and call you more. I mean - does he want a relationhip with you or not? . The only way to find this out is too not call him, and DO NOTHING! also try to be unavailable sometimes too. I know what you mean about torture and waiting by the phone.I go through it with guys every time, and I have found that one little trick that get;s you through it is too turn the phone off, or unplug it and put it in the drawer for the evening, than check it before you go to bed... its hard, but you do get some peace of mind, amd remember , its not a great sign if you are having to figure out what;s going on. not to say that he doesn;t like you - but cut him off for a bit, and let him miss you - if he comes back - it looks promising.x
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