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female
age
30-35,
*araMay
writes:I work at a sports bar and all my male co-workers really like me. I never thought of it as a problem, they're all very nice and I'm nice to them back because I have no reason not to be. Usually it has never been a big deal, they just compliment me by telling me how pretty I am etc. My managers never have made a big deal out of it and seemed to find it amusing. A few days ago though a few of my co-workers all chimed in they loved me and I said "love you guys too" not meaning in an inappropriate way, just trying to be nice and one of my managers actually got upset with me.. He said I should have just said thank you and shouldn't say things I don't mean.. What I don't get is if he had a problem with those kinds of things being said why is he only getting upset at me when I was just responding and not them.. And I don't know how me lying would come into it. I'm very confused. He always seems slightly irritated when I'm talking to my male co-workers and I wonder if subconsciously I flirt with my co-workers and do things because I know it affects him and I secretly harbor feelings for my manager who doesn't like when I respond to my flirting co-workers .. I'm really confused by the situation, and I wish I knew more how he felt so I could act accordingly. Please help!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (11 June 2013):
Business is business. How pretty you are and I love yous are strictly for personal time.
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reader, Queen_mermaid  +, writes (11 June 2013):
It seems he feels something for you and is upset of how your co workers is flirting with you and you are reciprocating the same things.
Try to flirt with him and see his reaction to be much more certain.
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reader, shrodingerscat +, writes (11 June 2013):
 It's unprofessional. Regardless of how innocent it is, you shouldn't encourage unprofessional behavior. This is your job, you should act in a manner that is proper for EMPLOYMENT. Flirt with them back on your own time. That is why your boss is upset, because you're not acting like an employee.
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