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writes:Hello, I have dropped by to say and ask for some advice. Well, First of all I *fancy* my brother's Friend. My brother’s friend is 16 years old but 17 this year. We both kind of did like each other but I told my brother and he did freak out but after was pissed off and went and told him blah blah and after my brother told me to go outside so he can tell me in my face he don’t fancy me and so he did and he replied saying he isn’t being racist but he likes English girls, By the way he's white and I am tan colour.The signs: Staring at me in to my eyes, makes me laugh, comes out and knocks on my door to see me NOT my brother once asked where I was. Sometimes stays out in my garden to wait till I come out. Both like each other BUT he does not show it only when my brother is not there. Sometimes gets in to my personal space. Gets jealous when I talk to his mate or if I pull him away and chat with him he will notice. Looks at me when he's talking to other people. Says hi to me or just stares in to my eyes. Stares a lot (esp. right into your eyes) and holds the stare for longer than usual. Eyebrows raise when he sees me. Eyes get "soft" when he looks at me. He hangs around with me ALWAYS BUT mostly stands and talks to my brother and just stares at me BUT does not make it that obvious.Twice asked my mum if he can come inside my house because he knew I was in but my mum lied and said I was sleeping because she saw he was abit drugged up and she had a feeling he fancies me. His dad knows that there was something going on with him because he would never nock on my door everyday like he did but know he kind of stopped.:(He has been doing all this since 6th April 09 to 14th May 2009 and officially stopped but still looks at me. He is really confusing he smokes weed everyday and is not worrying me but the BIG problem is why he has not been knocking on my door like he did before. Few days ago I went in his front garden because my brother called me in his garden I came, my brother told me to say Hi to him and he say hi back so we both did and then I went couple of hours later I am inside in my house and some English girl comes around my estate with him and I see outside my window that she *liked* him too the way she was acting, but he was kind of touching her like hips and getting close near her she was around my area for 2 days and then all a sudden stopped for some reason I don’t know why I thought they were going out but my bad maybe they were just friends BUT who cares the problem is that I don’t get it what he did before all the signs I put down he stopped doing some of them??The signs above he hasn’t been doing that any more since May 2009 he kind of stopped I don’t understand why he knows I fancy him and I know abit inside he likes me too but doesn’t show it anymore. My parents know him and what his like.So I was depressed so I told my brother the story and he said so do you want to go out with him if yes I can make that happen I said No is fine I just don’t know why he has been giving me them signs and all a sudden doesn’t want anything to do with me.And my brother said well to be true he only did those signs because he wanted S.E.X from you I was like Oh o.K. thought I saw something good in him but at the end it was something that wasn’t suppose to happen.I do think of him before 24/7 but sometimes now I think of him less because maybe he does like English girls but what can I do?I still have feelings for him and I wish they were a chance between me and him but I don’t know if that would happen.I am shy and get nervous when am around him I am only 16 years old and I really like him but I just don’t understand that he has been ignoring me after when we said hi to each other he just looks at me and that’s it????Please help me I am confused girl that needs adviceThank YouAlso today i saw him and i ignored him he was with that girl again:S and my mum told me he was looking at me but i ignored him lolhis weid in the evening his with her but at night he nocks on my door:S
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reader, Charleybabes0811 +, writes (15 May 2009):
Okay, firstly, Calm down!
You have to take these things one thing at a time.
Firstly, i know it's hard when your brother does anything but approve. I don't know if your brother is close to you.. but i'm sure that was difficult.. So I'm glad it worked out in that sense...
Have you tried talking to him on your own? Be straight with him. Ask him, like, how do you feel about me? It's easy as that. If he assures you he's not interested then he may have just liked the 'friend's sister' thing.
If he was telling the truth about the 'english girl' comment, then forget him, if he cant handle a colour how ready will he be in a relationship? I'd put money that it's not good :).
If you're thinkin of him less, then that is really good. People try really hard to do that, so congrats. :)
Please, if i;ve helped and you need more, dont hesitate to message me and ask anything. I've been in your situation, and i know it's difficult but you need to just see if he'll tell you straight. :)
Hope it works out
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 May 2009): Sounds to me like he's a game player and you're better off without him. If you're already thinking of him less, the Good for you!
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