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writes:Ok two months ago my daughters 3rd birthday to be exact! I was throwing her party and he daddy didn't show up he was 2 hours late!(we are together! He told me when he phoned from his grandmas that his truck broke down after taking a wrong turn and his grandma picked him up! Ok well after we left the party I knew he was lieing so I got mean and demanded the truth! He finally told me that a girl he had known had picked him up and took him to his grandmas! So he lied to begin with! I am uncomfortable wit it because she is dirty(std)! I don't understand why me being 5 mins from where he made a wrong turn he didn't just call me to come get him! I don't know if something happened between them or not but he lied over something over so dumb as to who picked him up I don't know what else he lied about! Please give me your thoughts on this so I can forget about it all! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): i honestly don't know how you are going to catch him out.
you know that this relaionship is somewhat in trouble. if he is "now just not into you", this speaks volumes of his actions. are you both still living together?
please do not tell your kids anything yet. it will only alarm them unnecessarily.
perhaps other agony aunts can provide some insight in to his behaviour. i am at a loss.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk see I questioned a lot why he didn't just call me to get him or call me from this chicks cell and tell me what happened if it was all innocent! He said she picked him up walking. He says he will take lie detectors to prove he isn't lieing! But like I told him there are ways to pass them! We have always had an open relationship a lot of communication! We used to talk about anything! Now he is growing distant and not as into me as before. After that day it has been hard to believe him when he tells me things! I am always questioning him about things. I can't ask this girl cuz from what I hear if someone says something wrong or looks at her wrong she is on them before you see what's coming. I mean its not that I can't fight I got 5 brothers and grew up on a farm but they say she is sneaky! I don't want to tell my kids what happened! What am I supposed to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2009): why would he phone this girl to pick him up and you only see him 2 hrs later? you have every right to be suspicious of this so, how do you get to the bottom of this? what other tell tale signs are there that perhaps he is elsewhere. if he lied over such an innocent incident what else is he lying about. you need to keep a watch over him and check out his stories from now on. you were almost right in front of his nose when he had the break down ( meaning literally 5 minutes away) but he choose to call another woman for help. why?? only he can tell you and that 2 hour late story needs to be investigated.
i am not trying to make you paranoid but something is not right. better be safe and sure that he is not cheating than to find out later that he was. you do not have to start nagging him but slowly and innocently probe his whereabouts.
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reader, niki20 +, writes (16 May 2009):
 you and your daughter are the life of the party, he probably knew you were busy. if your concerned that he did something if she has an std you can ask him to get a test, if he is clean, then ur fine. the best way is to ask him straight forward though.
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