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reader, gcruz  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I think he's just being nice ... I don't see major signs
My doctor caresses my face while looking in my eyes and also pinches my cheeks lol ODD but I don't think he's interested neither
But if u totally want something just call and ask him so you can save the in person awkwardness if he turns you down
Good luck lady !
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reader, youngatheart +, writes (11 February 2010):
youngatheart is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all the replies and advice....I know the boundaries between patient and counselor are strict and he is very professional. He is a great counselor and has helped me a lot and I hate to have to start all over with a new one. I just want to be careful. Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): It's probably unethical to flirt with a patient.
Patients usually fall in love with their counsellors. It's natural. But if you think there is something else happening, and it distracts from the main purpose of seeing him, you may want to look at other counsellors or decide if you have had enough counselling.
Or stop seeing him by paying for his time :)
If there is something else brewing he'll bring it up once you stop being his patient.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (11 February 2010):
 It would appear that he might be interested but you realize that it would be highly unprofessional of him to seek a personal relationship with him while treating you. You are treading in murky water. I think it would be wise if you are truly interested in him personally, to find another counselor.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): The indicators you describe are outside the counselor realm. Sounds like he is interested in you. If you like him back, you may want to ask him if he is interested in personal time, and ask how to compartmentalize the relationships, both business and personal. If he responds with disinterest in a personal relationship, forget all about your inquiry, and carry on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Um.. He most likley does like you. Everyone who has ever liked me shows similar signs. They look deeply in your eyes notice earings clothes or something. Finding out if he was single would help. Maybe even pretend like your sad b/c your boyfriend broke up with you.
-Hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Um.. He most likley does like you. Everyone who has ever liked me shows similar signs. They look deeply in your eyes notice earings clothes or something. Finding out if he was single would help. Maybe even pretend like your sad b/c your boyfriend broke up with you.
-Hope it helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Um.. He most likley does like you. Everyone who has ever liked me shows similar signs. They look deeply in your eyes notice earings clothes or something. Finding out if he was single would help. Maybe even pretend like your sad b/c your boyfriend broke up with you.
-Hope it helps
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reader, junebug81409 +, writes (11 February 2010):
None of my ever been that nice.if u truely like him then just give him little hints until u know like for sure bcuz u dont wanna mess up having a great counsler.it would be pretty werid if u told him and he said he didnt like u like that.i know i wouldnt want to go back!just give it time hon!good luck!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): Im not an expert but going into that field I would have to say that he is just probably being nice. Counselors are suppose to have a strict line between their patients and themselves. Where absolutely no relationship should occur. If he really does like you than he is breaking the rules.
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reader, hameleon89  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 It's risky, i think he is just beeing professional and kind.And second: if he was interessted he would propose you a cup of cofee long time ago.And if you do think that he likes you, try asking him for a cup of cofee, but in a joke way: if he will ask you how have you been, you can answer "lately not so much don't have a nice company to go for a cup of cofee in town" .Hope you find your asnwer:)
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