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writes:Well here goes. iv always been self-conscious. and worried about what people are thinking and saying about me. i dont know how i feel about myself anymore. and i really like this boy and he likes me. i really want to meet him, we both do but im really scared i dont know how to act around him, and everyone says act yourself but clearly it is hard, ask any teenage girl. i dont know how to control my nerves. please help me. x Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2010): You have got to hold your chin high and forget all your fears. Do not for a moment think about anything bad that could happen, just believe that you are wonderful, no matter what. Just carry yourself that way. And when you do, you'll talk with others without nervousness and fear, and be full of confidence because you will totally believe in who you are.
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reader, fishdish  +, writes (11 February 2010):
 maybe you can double date with a friend of yours and her guy, or make it a group date so that he can see how much fun you are. having a friend there will make you feel a little more at ease and "yourself".
if you don't have the luxury of a group date or double date, as you mentioned, teen years are a tough time for figuring out who you are and how to become comfortable in your own skin, so embrace the awkwardness, if things get uncomfortable, try to make light of it and try not to worry about it, it happens to everyone...my first date, my date tried to make a move to hold hands but i refused cause my hand was all sticky from the ice cream we had...i don't know, it seemed pretty awkward at the time! we've all been there.
try to think, beforehand, of topics of conversation that he will relate to- town stuff, after school stuff, music movies actors hobbies you may have in common, complaining about one's family is something teens do a lot and it can go on for a while so there's an option, or you don't have to bash them, i know that i'm very family oriented so that's something i like to talk a lot about. if you know you are X-oriented--like you think you want to be a doctor, or ...i don't know, you like animals a lot, that could be another topic of conversation, your own interests may give him insight to your personality. mostly, a movie date is a safe date because the movie will take up the space of potential awkward pauses, I'm sure it will be fine! have fun!
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reader, x3chelciemarie +, writes (11 February 2010):
 I had this problem before to. I got over it with CONFIDENCE! This is the ultimate key to just forget your nerves and be a great person around th eguy you like. If confidence is hard for you to find, just think to yourself before you hang out with him, one good thing about yourself, and focus on that for the rest of the day. Believe you can be confident and you will! And just think, if something goes wrong, theres always next time.. if he likes you he wont mind a little slip up!
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