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writes: *Notice: I am NOT interested in him and never had feelings for this guy.I am a female and I have this classmate (a male) who known me since middle school. He is very much popular and girls have crushes on him. He does have a girlfriend, but I kind of notice his body language. For the past two days, he sat in front of me and today, he sat beside me, because someone was sitting in his seat in the library. I remember we had a food class together, and he said that my hair was sexy since I do I have long, black hair. He even stretch out to slap my knee and get my attention in history class. He even gave me a high five after I got a question right and he held and shake my hand for a little while and came over to my desk (he sits beside me in class. We have assigned seats) and looked over my paper since I was taking notes. What is going on and what should I do? (As of 3/24/15: he doesn't really talk to me often and he told his friend to be quiet when he mentioned that he was going to the prom with his girl around me.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015): Unless you want his girlfriend pulling your sexy long black hair out by the root; just ignore his flirting. He likes being popular, and he's just looking for another fan to add to his fan-base. His friends and other jealous girls, will run back and tell his girlfriend everything.
Respect the girlfriend, even if you don't respect him.
He's a player. Do you see how he doesn't care about his girlfriend's feelings? He'd be the same with any girl, you included. He's just flirty with you to increase his popularity with girls, plus one more. Now "YOU'RE" crushing!
You shouldn't do anything but ask him not to touch you.
If you're not interested, why should it matter if he's interested in you?
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (25 March 2015):
Oh you are interested , maybe you don't even know it yourself, but you are. Otherwise you probably would not even notice his body language and such menial banal events like a slap on the knee or a high five would not stick in your mind.
What's going on , is that he is a flirty guy who likes sexy long black hair. That he would actually leave his Gf based on just your long black hair, is doubtful and all to be seen. So do not do absolutely anything, i.e. be normally friendly as you would be with any other classmate but if he keeps being flirty or gets touchy feely do not flirt back and do not encourage him, for all intents and pyrposes, he has a Gf, so even he finds you cute, sexy etc. ( he probably does ) it should not concern you at all.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 March 2015):
You are LYING to YOURSELF if you say you are not interested in him. DO NOT LIE TO YOURSELF.
The mere fact that you can list all these things that he has done to get your attention means you are paying attention to him enough to keep track of your interactions.
There is no crime in liking someone who is partnered the crime is if you go after them.
What's going on is that you are all young hormonally driven teens with not enough life experience to figure out how to interact with each other yet on a human basis.
What should you do? well if it was a girl what would you do?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 March 2015):
Ignore it. HE HAS a GF, so even IF he is interested in you he isn't so interested that he is going to dump the GF and date you.
You say you are NOT interested in him, YET you notice every little thing he does as "he must be interested in me"... Maybe he sees you as one of the "guys" ? Or he like to flatter/flirt lowkey?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2015):
If your not interested in him, sweetie. Then I find your post odd . Of course your interested hence the questions .
Okay I think he is trying his luck . Just like girls love when guys notice them. Guy love when girls fawn over them.esp when they are not .. see this is where you come in .. He wants your attention in that you get all gooey when around lol. The fact are he has a gf, and don't think to much about it ..
Take care sweetie .
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