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writes:dear cupid,soo, earlier this week, i met a guy on a dating site; let's pretend his name is scotty. he randomly sent me a message, and after we had talked that way for a little while, he sent me his cell phone number and invited me to text him (this was on monday). i did, and we talked nearly all day long...as well as nearly all day tuesday and wednesday. we have both expressed that we think the other is attractive/sweet/should most definitely not be single, and if you ask me, we've been getting along great. he even surprised me by going so far as to look me up on facebook and add me.yesterday, we didn't talk as much--only for a little bit in the morning. mainly, this was because he works part-time as a cop on the night shift, and thursday night is one of the nights that he works, soo, as you can probably imagine, he spends most of the day sleeping.the thing that kind of has me concerned is that he worked wednesday night as well...but it was a different story from thursday. for example, he texted me while he was on his way to work on wednesday and even every now and again once he was already at work. last night, however...nothing.like i said before, we've been getting along great. we've even discussed hanging out this weekend (he offered to teach me how to shoot a gun and then suggested going to dinner and having a 'saw' movie marathon as well). soo, it's kind of confusing me that he's not really talking as much.my question is, what do you think i should conclude about all of this? does it seem to you like maybe he is, in fact, interested in me and is just busy? or, do you think he might be trying to say that he wants to call it quits?also, what should my next move be? i'm 20 (soon to be 21), and he recently turned 25. i've never dealt with a guy that much older than me, and i don't want to screw things up by coming across as immature in this situation...and i'm afraid that that's what's going to end up happening.any help is greatly appreciated!!! ")
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (18 August 2012):
 I don't want to burst your bubble, but a man does not have to text you all day every day. Most men do have lives and you should too considering this is someone you met online and have yet to meet in real-life. Besides that, "he went so far to add me on Facebook"? How far is that exactly? That does not take any energy or any amount of caring about someone, you just click a button. How can he want to call it quits when you haven't even started? You've been TEXTING. Texting is not having a relationship, it is texting. I think you are taking this way too seriously when you haven't met the guy or dated. You are not a couple yet. If he offered to go to dinner, then you need to go to dinner and see what he is like in real life. Some men simply don't talk all day and all night. Most of the ones I know say what they have to and not much more.
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