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writes:I kissed this guy a year and a half ago but the following night he said that he was drunk that night. I met him a few times since but nothing ever happened and we just talked. I bumped into him in a bar last weekend and he apologised for what happened a year and a half ago. We kissed but he said he didn't want to go out with anyone at the moment because he was going away for a month. I said to him would he like to go out with me and he said he would. So I said we could just wait and see what happens when he comes back and he agreed with me. He then asked me to meet him for lunch last Monday (if he wasn't too busy at work), gave me his number (he had mine already) and told me to give him a text. When I hadn't heard from him by 12.30 on Monday I foolishly text him. He text me back and said he had alot of things to do at work and wouldn't be able to meet me after all. Is he interested at all or just playing games?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Give it up, girl. Find someone who is actually interested in you
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 August 2009): Thanks for the advice Starfairy but I don't really understand what you mean. I don't feel I pressured him at least I didn't mean to anyway. I said to him that we could wait and see what happens when he comes back that there was no pressure and there was no guarantees either way.
People have told me he is a shy guy. But you're right if he was really interested he wouldn't have waited for 18 months!
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reader, starfairy  +, writes (23 August 2009):
 My views are this;
After reading your question, I get the impression you were pressuring him.
He agreed to go out with you only because he told you he didn't want to be with anyone, yet you still pressed it and asked him to be with you.
If he was interested, he wouldn't have left it for 18 months after you kissed.
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reader, Sphronas +, writes (23 August 2009):
 It seems that when he asked you to meet him for lunch, he was up front about the fact that he might actually be too busy to keep the appointment. So I don't think you should read too much into the fact that it then turned out that he actually was too busy. Of course, it would have been nice of him to call or text you to apologize and say that he would not be able to make it, but he may just have been too busy.
He may well be playing games, but if you like him enough to keep up your interest in him over one and a half years of occasional conversations and if you are willing to wait another month while he's away just to see whether something will develop when he gets back, you may as well give him the benefit of the doubt. Ask him to call you when he gets back from wherever he is going and if you still feel like going out with him, meet him and wait to see whether something develops. Just make sure that it's not you who has to call him all the time. If he is interested in you, he should show it.
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