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writes: ok i know this is wrong,i've this guy he's 9 years younger than me.he's caring loving and i have never been traeted thsi way before so its kind of strange.The thing is i'm single,he's not married but lives with his partner of 10 years,he has 2 small children,but he has told me he has cheated since he has been with his partner,six times in all.can he love this women he lives with,if he goes round doing this.i would like to have a future with him,but deep down i feel he would probably do this to me in time.he has sex at home,so i cant understand why he does this. Reply to this Question
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reader, karenw61 +, writes (24 July 2006):
hi this guy behaves this way because he is selfish.if he is playing up on his now partner he will play up on you to you know what they say if they do it with you they will do it to you.also whether he is happy or not there are innocent children involved he needs to get his own house in order before he moves on.this guy will hurt you also.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (24 July 2006):
 It seems that he does not care for this woman he lives with as much as he tells her he does. Maybe he loves her in his own strange way but I'd certainly want more love than that from a man. Maybe he's staying for the children? A lot of men do this, fall out of love with their woman and go off with other women but come home every night for the children.
I believe that a cheat is always going to be a cheat and he will always be capable of doing it to you in the future. Maybe it's the women he's serious with that he gets bored with, and it's the flings he enjoys? Whatever his reasons, you don't want to be that woman at home with the kids while her husband is out and up to no good.
I think you need to think long and hard about whether you could trust this man as your partner if he left her. If you can't then there's not point in carrying this on into anything more serious. If you could trust him one day, maybe you should speak to him and see what he wants. He may never leave this woman at home, many men never do, they want the best of both worlds.
If you have any dignity, you need to stop being this mans play-thing and demand some repsect from him. I could not stand my man going home to someone else every night and having sex with them! I know he's officially her man but if he's doing this with you, then he needs to make a decision before more people get hurt.
He needs to accept what he's done and make a decision right now. Speak to him and don't stick around wasting anymore time on a cheat. Good luck
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