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*hereisthelove
writes:I have a friend that is ashamed to get on here and ask a question. I told her that no one would know her. LOL Anyway she has been dating this guy for about 6 months with no sex involved until last night. They were fooling around first and then it got hot and heated she said. And she said that he never got a real erection until she started to rub his butt (still not a full erection) so she told him to tell her when to stop as she got closer to his anus. So she got inside his anus and he went wild. She said it started to get really weird because he was saying stuff like "nobody has ever f***** me like that". she said that it got really weird for her and she had to stop. he never showed any interested in penetrating her, just having her finger in his anus. she was so rattled that she told him she didn't think they were going to fit together sexually. some people are more freaky than others but this really shocked her and after talking to him she finds out this is something that he loves to have done but she just can't see herself having a fulfilling sexual with someone that can't get a full erection and has no interest in penetrating her. now her questions are: could he be gay? is she being shallow? because otherwise he is a nice guy. she says she is not willing to settle or give up things that are important to her in a relationship just because she has spent so long alone.
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reader, whereisthelove +, writes (12 June 2011):
whereisthelove is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell i let her read your replies and she is still undecided. i just told her to trust her instincts and don't settle for less than what she wants. :)
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (11 June 2011):
 He doesn't sound necessarily gay. A lot of guys are into backdoor action - the make G-spot is back there and can be a surprisingly awesome sensation for guys. So maybe she just blew his mind in a new way. I'd tell your friend to stick with him for a little while more (if she likes him) and to see if things progress. He might just be kinky and nervous about penetration!
Good luck, sweet!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2011): Hmm i think he sounds maybe gay too,either that or a really selfish lover. If he was fully attracted to her he would want to please her sexually and not scare her off by being so full on the first time they had sex. She is not being shallow, everybody has their limits and that was hers, im not prudish and open minded when it comes to sex but that would bother me too, not the fact that he wanted to try it, but the fact that he was soo into it. I wouldn't settle if i were her because she wont be happy with just settling for the sake of it, there is somebody out there for everyone so dont put yourself down, dont change your morals or standards just to make somebody else happy. good luck :)
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reader, Smileypants +, writes (11 June 2011):
 Gay? Maybe, maybe not. It might have been he was really turned on, and she obviously hit a "hot spot" for him lolNot all guys who like anal play are gay. Their prostrate gland is in there, and from what I heard that gives them incredible orgasms...If she really likes him otherwise, I'd say still see him. If it happens like that again, yeah, she'll probably lose interest then. But I wouldn't automatically assume he will never want penetration. Have her be bold about it! Say "fuck me" and if that doesn't make him stick it in, nothing will hahaGood luck :o)
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