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writes:Okay so i,m really getting frustrated with this guy, it's been nearly a year and this guy and I have built up a serious connection and can't keep our eyes or hands off each other(casual but not intimate touching)But obviously intentional especially on his part.He can't seem to be able to leave me alone to the point where I have felt a bit stalked recently.He is the one trying to make the connections and finding things in common between us all the time.After all this time anyone looking from the outside in would think we were a couple.I know he is really attracted to me and he knows I am to him, the eye contact is very intense and the chemistry amazing. He stammers and stutters when we connect with our eyes which his are like saucers.He is a charismatic man who seems to attract people to him and has at least one other lady swooning over him, although he acts differently with her than he does with me, he still flirts with her by eye tag and slight touches (poking and prodding, etc.)When he thinks I can't see it.Which makes me feel really upset.Is he doing it on purpose to get a reaction from me?His actions and conversations for me seem very sincere and he seems to want to be with me at every opportunity throughout the working day. In fact he can't seem to last a day without connecting with me in some way or other.He has never asked me for a date or even asked for my number though, and I feel like he is waiting for me to make that move.When we're together I feel like I have all his attention but when this other woman is around as well I can sort of sense that he is uncomfortable, like he's embarassed by her attentions (obvious swooning) He doesn't directly flirt back with her but does mess around with her when he thinks I can't see it which has obviously resulted in her being attracted to him.I would have thought if he was just flirting for fun with me though, that he would have given up after all this time, especially when he could probably have this other woman any time he wants. My feeling is that if he really wanted me he would have said something(anything!!!!) by now.Can you guys answer this,Does it seem like he is sincere with me and just being playful with the other one, or is he just in this for some kind of narcissistic attention?I'ts starting to take over my rational thoughts and your advice will be taken very seriously.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Do you work together ?..
Some companies- and also some individuals- are strongly against office romances. They feel that if the romance ends that can have unpleasant ripercussions on the productivity and general work atmosphere, and on personal careers.
Perhaps that could be the reason of his hesitation in approaching you more directly.
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